muddleglum
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- If you’re planning to breastfeed, get baby to the boob as much as you can. For the first day especially, baby will still have all of the nutrients from when he was still attached to the placenta. Keep trying to get baby to latch, and if you need help, ask if your hospital has a lactation consultant. If you want to breastfeed but have difficulties, latch baby for every feeding but pace feed with a newborn nipple every time without going up. Bottle preference is what my baby has and it’s been heartbreaking knowing I had the choice made for me. He will not breastfeed.
- If baby will not latch and you’re going to pump, you really should pump with every feeding or else you may have supply issues.
- the app Huckleberry is your bff for all things baby tracking, especially sleep when baby is 2 months old.
- newborn sleep sucks, but it sucks a whole lot more when your baby is showing signs of a food allergy and you don’t realize it (happened to us )
- Babies do cry, but if your baby is crying an obscene amount with no relief, it could be gas. Frida windis are your friend. Buy those in bulk!
- if you’re still not seeing relief, it’s possible baby has reflux (which is a sign of a food allergy).
- remember, this is all so very temporary. Enjoy those baby snuggles.
- baby wanting to contact nap is normal and to be expected. You likely won’t be able to really put baby down for much of anything.
- learn the safest way to bedshare. There will likely come a time when you’re desperate for sleep and baby will not sleep. You do not want to be in a position where you’re sleeping with baby in the least safest way possible. Safe sleep 7 is your friend.
- baby carriers are your Friend. If baby doesn’t like one, there are so many different kinds out there. I have the baby bjorn, wildbird, solly baby wrap, moby wrap, and a woven wrap. I use them multiple times a day, the woven wraps are my all time favorite but are the hardest to learn. But they’re absolutely beautiful. Structured carriers are the easiest to learn, but my baby does not like sleeping in them.
- baby will be slept in the beginning, likely sleeping upwards of 19 hours a day. Then they could randomly decide that they’re less sleepy. Baby will likely “wake up” around 3-4 weeks as their brains slowly boot up and become aware of things around them.
- milestones aren’t late until it’s x month + 30 days (so for instance, 4 month milestones aren’t late until 4 months and 30 days). Missing 1 milestone isn’t a big deal, but missing 2 or more in multiple categories is a bigger deal.
- try to find your bumper group on discord. It’s my best resource, so many second time parents to ask my endless questions to.
- try to follow and listen to your instincts.
- postpartum anxiety is a thing, but a little bit of anxiety is normal.
- don’t be surprised if your ob likely puts zero effort or thought into you after baby is born. It was a rough wake up for me.
- this is probably the one I struggle with the most… but having a baby was a hard wake up call with my husband. There was a very clear disconnect where I was doing 100% of baby care at all times and I was exhausted. My husband was so apprehensive to help me, it was exhausting. It almost lead to divorce until one day I had a heart to heart with him and now he’s so active and it’s so heartwarming to see him interacting with our son.
- relax. And remember that at the end of labor, you get to meet your baby that you’ve been waiting 9 months for.
- soak in so many baby cuddles. It goes by so quickly, my baby is only 4 months and I’m already crying over how big he is (and he’s just now out of the newborn stage!)
- you will likely call for everything. I did, and the doctors understand. Just call if you’re not sure.
- baby doesn’t have a voice, you are their voice. If you don’t speak up for baby, no one will. This gave me the power I needed to push for my baby when I thought he needed it. You are their whole world, be their voice.
- if baby keeps crying and nothing is working, throw baby in the carrier and go outside.
- don’t push yourself into bringing baby out and about if you don’t want to. My husband thought we needed to or else we would never leave the house, but I just panicked because baby ended up getting sick. Sick babies are so sad to see, but sick newborns are fucking scary to see
- it gets easier and a little bit more room to breathe after you get out of the newborn stage. It will go by in a blink, I promise. Try to relish in it. You will miss it.
- hold that baby. You cannot spoil a baby. I held my baby nearly 24/7 for the first few months, now he refuses to even nap on me. Babies cannot develop habits so early on and don’t until they’re much much older.
- If you plan to pump, you can get 2 pumps covered by insurance! One is the one you likely are getting spammed with to get for free from insurance, the other is a hospital grade pump rental covered. Sometimes even for free. If you do pump, do not get the wearables. They seem tempting, but they will likely hurt your supply.