@underscorezero I’m so sorry. At this point I expect people to say dumb things, some well meaning, some unsympathizing. I always forgive, but I don’t trust anyone except my 3 closest friends who have also gone through infertility.
I had a MC 2 years ago in late first trimester. We conceived on our first try, but haven’t been able to conceive since. I never bring it up. While I do experience deep grief on my bad days, I still have good days and a life outside of TTC that I enjoy. It angers me when people pity me.
Does anyone else feel like once you are TTC over a year, you can tell by the look in people’s eyes that they feel sorry for you? That’s the thing about TTC I abhor the most. I don’t want people’s pity; I want to laugh and have good time. I don’t want to be seen as “the woman with the issue”, I want to be seen as a whole person.
Of course I share my pain with my 3 friends, but they also understand since they’ve gone/are going through it too, and they see me as a whole person. I pray everyone here finds those friends because I wouldn’t make it through without them.