We found out our babies heart stopped beating this Friday. The previous Friday I had an ultrasound that showed him about a week behind(about 6.5 weeks instead of almost 8), and with a slow heart rate of 96. Everyone assured me his heart had just started beating and that this was a great sign, but I just had a feeling. US a week later confirmed my suspicions. His heart had stopped beating. She said the yolk sack was not yet deflated so it had likely JUST happened.
I left the private ultrasound, and went home. After sitting for a couple of hours I decided I water the tablet to speed things along. Sitting and waiting, knowing he was already gone inside of me for who knows how long sounded like torture. I called my ER ahead of time and asked if they would give it to me, and the nurse said yes.
We sat in the hospital for 9 hours. They preformed another ultrasound and confirmed once again that there was no heart beat. Finally, a PA came in and told me that after consulting with my OB, the would not provide me the pill or schedule a D&C. It’s a catholic hospital in the south, which I’m sure has something to do with it. My emotions were high and I got pretty angry with her. She was essentially implying that they weren’t comfortable “terminating the pregnancy” because there was still a chance. I told her she should thank God that I wasn’t naive, because saying that to someone who didn’t know better would give them so much hope.
My intuition told me something was wrong. I’ve had no change in symptoms, no bleeding- nothing. And I was right. They’ve told me to keep my OB appt (scheduled on the 20th of January) and we’ll decide next steps then. Is it possible my body will hold on to the non viable baby for that long? I feel guilty, but I just want it to be over with. This is our third loss and I’m dreading the bleeding and pain.
I’d love some advice and stories, if y’all are willing to share. How long did your body hold onto a missed miscarriage? How do you advocate for yourself when you’re denied care?
Also a little advice- we did a clinical sneak leak a couple weeks ago and found out the baby was a boy- which my intuition also was nudging me towards. Don’t do it, wait for the scan. Knowing who he is makes this so, so, so much harder.
I left the private ultrasound, and went home. After sitting for a couple of hours I decided I water the tablet to speed things along. Sitting and waiting, knowing he was already gone inside of me for who knows how long sounded like torture. I called my ER ahead of time and asked if they would give it to me, and the nurse said yes.
We sat in the hospital for 9 hours. They preformed another ultrasound and confirmed once again that there was no heart beat. Finally, a PA came in and told me that after consulting with my OB, the would not provide me the pill or schedule a D&C. It’s a catholic hospital in the south, which I’m sure has something to do with it. My emotions were high and I got pretty angry with her. She was essentially implying that they weren’t comfortable “terminating the pregnancy” because there was still a chance. I told her she should thank God that I wasn’t naive, because saying that to someone who didn’t know better would give them so much hope.
My intuition told me something was wrong. I’ve had no change in symptoms, no bleeding- nothing. And I was right. They’ve told me to keep my OB appt (scheduled on the 20th of January) and we’ll decide next steps then. Is it possible my body will hold on to the non viable baby for that long? I feel guilty, but I just want it to be over with. This is our third loss and I’m dreading the bleeding and pain.
I’d love some advice and stories, if y’all are willing to share. How long did your body hold onto a missed miscarriage? How do you advocate for yourself when you’re denied care?
Also a little advice- we did a clinical sneak leak a couple weeks ago and found out the baby was a boy- which my intuition also was nudging me towards. Don’t do it, wait for the scan. Knowing who he is makes this so, so, so much harder.
