ashleymerryman
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@asalia207 I’m a mom to a 9 month old. I have mom friends who had babies around the same time and some of them are relatively “ahead” and others “behind” my baby in terms of various milestones. So your baby is doing everything except crawling yet. Big whoop. A lot of babies never crawl and just skip it and go straight to walking. It’s not even a milestone technically anymore. Some of my mom friends seem to want to think their babies are superior to mine because they started crawling at 7 months and mine didn’t but I think it’s total BS. People will look to anything to compete with especially their children. I’m sure some of these people will still be bragging at cocktail parties that their kid walked at 8 months. I can think of few things more meaningless. Do your kid a favor and don’t buy into it. Wait until they’re applying to colleges at least.
All this said please help your wife. Reassure her she’s a great mom. Look at all you have already done to support your child! And take some pressure off, it seems like your baby is doing wonderfully. Try to enjoy his stages. He will learn to walk. Why spend all the time now jealous that he’s not when it’s not even developmentally considered delayed until he’s 18 months? Rest assured that research shows when babies hit these milestones within the very wide range of normal is meaningless. Maybe the chances a baby becomes a professional soccer player is slightly increased if they are early walkers from like 1 in 10 million to 1 in 9.5 million. But for the vast vast majority of us it indicates literally NOTHING.
I am so fired up about this subject because I’m in the thick of it now too and there are a lot of people around me wanting to compare or feeling good or bad about themselves and their babies because of a few weeks difference in army crawling and it makes me want to scream.
There is so much pressure on new parents especially moms. I often feel like I’m failing in general. Please let this one go and help support your wife to do so too.
All this said please help your wife. Reassure her she’s a great mom. Look at all you have already done to support your child! And take some pressure off, it seems like your baby is doing wonderfully. Try to enjoy his stages. He will learn to walk. Why spend all the time now jealous that he’s not when it’s not even developmentally considered delayed until he’s 18 months? Rest assured that research shows when babies hit these milestones within the very wide range of normal is meaningless. Maybe the chances a baby becomes a professional soccer player is slightly increased if they are early walkers from like 1 in 10 million to 1 in 9.5 million. But for the vast vast majority of us it indicates literally NOTHING.
I am so fired up about this subject because I’m in the thick of it now too and there are a lot of people around me wanting to compare or feeling good or bad about themselves and their babies because of a few weeks difference in army crawling and it makes me want to scream.
There is so much pressure on new parents especially moms. I often feel like I’m failing in general. Please let this one go and help support your wife to do so too.