@puddingtader I think what it comes down to is how much “support” you have outside of you and your partner to help raise any kids. This can be financial, if both parents make good money then daycare is an option. If one parent makes really good money then it can make more sense for the other to stay home with the kids. If this doesn’t apply to you, maybe you have one or two sets of grandparents that live close that help with childcare. Or maybe it’s even a close knit group of friends that does a nanny share.
But that’s for one kid. People who are paying for childcare will be more limited than those who have a STAP or grandparents involved in childcare as far as adding more kids.
It seems to me a totally understandable point of view for many young and middle adults to not be having kids. If you have two partners working “ok” jobs and aren’t close with family for relationship or geographical reasons, it would sound insane.
I don’t have close family, but my partner has a job that meant we were able to afford a house a couple years ago with a great interest rate. He makes enough that I can stay home with the kids, and we can afford a car that can carry all of us. But even with one kid most jobs that were options to me would barely cover daycare. Even when we had access to daycare on the military base (less expensive) I didn’t want to be apart from my child while working to make net $200/month. And some families might need that difference.
But that’s for one kid. People who are paying for childcare will be more limited than those who have a STAP or grandparents involved in childcare as far as adding more kids.
It seems to me a totally understandable point of view for many young and middle adults to not be having kids. If you have two partners working “ok” jobs and aren’t close with family for relationship or geographical reasons, it would sound insane.
I don’t have close family, but my partner has a job that meant we were able to afford a house a couple years ago with a great interest rate. He makes enough that I can stay home with the kids, and we can afford a car that can carry all of us. But even with one kid most jobs that were options to me would barely cover daycare. Even when we had access to daycare on the military base (less expensive) I didn’t want to be apart from my child while working to make net $200/month. And some families might need that difference.