roseforchrist
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My friend, who is childless, keeps telling me I will regret not having another baby.
My son is 9 months and is a happy, cheeky crazy little boy. But it’s been hard. We’ve had no help or support from family (my mum died, my dad refuses as he’s “done raising kids”, husbands mum lives 2 hours away and his dad vanished when he was 6 months old) so I’ve been dealing with a pandemic, a colicky infant with painful reflux as well as working from home 30 hours a week and having my gallbladder removed- practically alone.
My husband is as hands on as he can be when he’s not at work. His mum has watched him 4 times which I feel forever grateful for. But, considering how awful my pregnancy was (sick from 7-birth multiple times a day) and how stressed I’ve been trying to juggle it all, I just don’t want to have another baby. I’m happy with just having my son.
Despite this, my best friend (who’s husband won’t allow them to have children for another 2 years according to his plan) is insisting I’ll change my mind or that I’ll regret not having 2. I would honestly rather live in regret of not having two than have my son watch his mother fall apart in front him. He doesn’t deserve that. I don’t deserve that. I love my friend but I’m tired of being told I’ll regret something that I feel very strongly against. I love my son. But he comes first, as does my own mental health.
I just needed to vent to others who will understand as no one really gets how hard this is. I’ve been locked away for 2 years due to the pandemic and working/raising a baby from home and I can’t do that again. I don’t want to have another baby and I’m tired of people saying I’ll regret it.
My son is 9 months and is a happy, cheeky crazy little boy. But it’s been hard. We’ve had no help or support from family (my mum died, my dad refuses as he’s “done raising kids”, husbands mum lives 2 hours away and his dad vanished when he was 6 months old) so I’ve been dealing with a pandemic, a colicky infant with painful reflux as well as working from home 30 hours a week and having my gallbladder removed- practically alone.
My husband is as hands on as he can be when he’s not at work. His mum has watched him 4 times which I feel forever grateful for. But, considering how awful my pregnancy was (sick from 7-birth multiple times a day) and how stressed I’ve been trying to juggle it all, I just don’t want to have another baby. I’m happy with just having my son.
Despite this, my best friend (who’s husband won’t allow them to have children for another 2 years according to his plan) is insisting I’ll change my mind or that I’ll regret not having 2. I would honestly rather live in regret of not having two than have my son watch his mother fall apart in front him. He doesn’t deserve that. I don’t deserve that. I love my friend but I’m tired of being told I’ll regret something that I feel very strongly against. I love my son. But he comes first, as does my own mental health.
I just needed to vent to others who will understand as no one really gets how hard this is. I’ve been locked away for 2 years due to the pandemic and working/raising a baby from home and I can’t do that again. I don’t want to have another baby and I’m tired of people saying I’ll regret it.
