@roseforchrist I’m so sorry she’s doing this - it is tremendously unkind.
To be honest my first thought is to tell her she’ll regret not having a baby sooner and see how she likes it, but that’s not the kind of person I would want to be, so I won’t suggest it to you.
I would honestly just tell her how it makes you feel. “I feel really judged by you every time we have this conversation, I’m going to do my best to make the right decisions for my family - just like you’ll try to make the best for yours. I really need you to support me. Maybe I’ll change my mind, maybe I won’t, but this pressure doesn’t feel like friendship.”
I think that sometimes people who pressure for two think it’s what YOU want and they just need to help you solve for the reasons why you don’t want two, and they just need it spelled out.
Regardless, I’m sorry this is happening. I think it’s really messed up of her to say things like that.