Calling All Moms Who Have Breastfed

[lukester09]

Help. Me. Why.

THANK YOU EVERYBODY SO MUCH. I didn’t expect so many responses. Thank you!!​

EDIT: F U if you downvoted. Im asking for help/advice and obviously my baby is very loved and Im very devoted to him. So suck my D!

Edit to add: he cuts like 4-6 teeth at once… and is growing so tall so fast. so I know that may be a big factors for comfort but jeez it’s hard.

Info: my 19 month old rainbow baby is glued to me, and I’m unsure if I may have messed up. I have exclusively breast fed, did a bottle sometimes in newborn phase and ditched it, never used a paci, and have co slept. (If you’re anti co sleep. Please do not come for me.)

He’s 19 months in a week. He is STUCK on my tits. I mean. It’s absolutely ridiculous. I don’t know what to do.

I swear he’s more on my boobs now than he ever has been. I don’t want to force him to wean 100%, but he wants to nurse 100million times a day.

He tries to pull out my boobs in public. If we are home it’s nurse nurse nurse nurse. Meltdown if I put them away.
Do I need to just bite my tongue through the crying and ignore him and suffer?
I feel like a monster when I do that.

He’s eating food… sort of. #he does eat food He’s a big fruit guy. He eats other stuff, but he’s just obsessed with booby. Some days he eats a lot of snacks and fruit and others he doesn’t. I know that’s typical for toddlers.
He used to eat a LOT at meal times and recently regressed
I give him juice and water. Sometimes he straight refuses both. I gave him regular milk a couple times, and he looked straight offended and grossed out.

I feel like I’m failing hahahaha. He’s my “first” baby my rainbow baby. So I think I may have spoiled him a bit too much and lack of experience and help I have set like little to NO boundaries. I’m at a loss.

I have a feral 19 month old who is quite literally running my life. He’s impossible in public. My man (his father) can’t even hug me without high pitched screaming.
For the love of god , someone tell me they’ve been through this or it’s semi normal? Or have I fucked up?

 

[herbaloma]

@lukester09 Bigger actual food meals, snacks he can grab whenever he wants, and start putting his milk in sippy cups during the day. Nurse only to sleep.

Now this is going to be hard as he is going to push harder to nurse when it’s a no. So you do have to stand firm, but it’s not mean. It’s okay for you to reclaim your body at least a lil bit. You have given him so much.

You haven’t messed up at all. And it is normal, but he is big enough to handle this change now.

 

[lukester09]

@herbaloma Thank you so much!!

 

[james222]

@lukester09 Wear tops that he can’t pull you out of as well to make sure he can’t get at you. I had to go cold turkey with my youngest when I was rushed to hospital and put on heavy medication that I couldn’t breastfeed on (she was about the same age) and I wore high neck, longer sleeve tops so she had no access at all. Helped when we were out in public!

Even though he’s young get him in the kitchen and get him to help “prep” his plate so he takes more interest in the food he’s about to eat. The less boob and snacks he has the more he’ll eat at meals which will then help him go longer. Good luck!!

 

[lukester09]

@james222 I actually tend to wear sports bras and a t shirt because of this now. It’s just so humid where I live. So it’s a struggle. But I do appreciate the tip regardless.
I’ve been considering getting a little toddler step up thingy so he can help me make food.
Thank you !!

Hope you’re doing better now health wise ?

 

[james222]

@lukester09 Sadly it wasn’t something they could fix and I’m now permanently disabled but I’m still trudging onwards!! Was nearly paralysed so I was lucky I didn’t end up much worse. Thank you for thinking of me!

Humid isn’t nice though - Shame we can’t get clothes with build in fans! Hopefully he’ll love helping make the food (or at least making a mess with it haha) and it’ll help distract him from you. Oh, and if it all works it’ll make that bedtime feed so much more special.

 

[canadian_man_44]

@james222 So I don't know who needs to hear this but there's fans now that clip on your waistband to blow air up inside your shirt.

 

[marieclare33]

@canadian_man_44 Me. It's me who needed to hear this. Me who lined my bras with pantiliners the last summer because I just cannot handle the damp underboob

 

[dfaith20]

@marieclare33 This is genius!!

 

[marieclare33]

@dfaith20 I was honestly surprised it worked! I thought they'd just ball up into a sticky scrunched up mess within an hour but they stayed put and kept me so dry!!

 

[james222]

@canadian_man_44 Oh wow I needed to hear this!!

 

[jp45]

@lukester09 I had to wear rompers when I weaned my son because he was so dead set on getting to the boob. I couldn't wear sports bras because everything was so sensitive. But a high neck but loose cotton romper might be good in a humid climate. We're in Florida on the water so I get it.

With the toddler step up, my son liked helping chop things. I got a chopper thing from my mom that I have absolutely no idea what they're called. It was like flat metal, not sharp, with a plastic handle on top. He used it as a knife for fruits and veg and it seemed easier and safer than an actual knife. Maybe your kiddo would like being big and chopping things himself. I wish I could be more helpful with a search term, but words are hard.

 

[marieclare33]

@jp45 Lmfao the tenacity of toddlers is actually hilarious. "GIMME THAT BOOB"

 

[lukester09]

@marieclare33 It’s so rude. He is such a titty snatcher.

 

[lukester09]

@jp45 Words are hard lol. You’re the best. Thank you!!!

 

[sikasil23]

@lukester09 Careful about the nursing to sleep. Unless you can somehow clean his teeth afterward, he can get bad tooth decay from sitting in the milk sugars overnight. Maybe even to the point of needing general anesthesia for extreme dental work as a toddler. Ask me how I know

 

[seagonwarms]

@sikasil23 I think that’s been debunked?…

 

[sikasil23]

@seagonwarms No, it’s absolutely true. Happened to us, unfortunately.

 

[koffiefrats]

@sikasil23 It happened to one of my kiddos as well, but not the other one.

 

[robbrew1]

@koffiefrats A lot of it is genetics. Even with siblings, one might get tooth decay and cavities, the other won't. My brother never had a single cavity, I had 13 by the time I was an adult, and I flossed after every meal and brushed my teeth twice a day, even as a kid. The funny thing is, when I met my husband 10 years ago, who has never had a cavity in his life either, I stopped getting tooth problems. The dental assistant who cleans my teeth said she read it can happen in relationships where you can get a healthy mouth micro biome from your partner. But it can also happen vice versa, depends on who's is stronger.