@jar1437 My parents called the cops on me a lot. I deserved it... like bad acting out mental episodes. I also had an eating disorder and mental issues. Do you have crisis units in your state? Not like state hospital but crisis 72 hours to 5 days? They're actually pretty chill. She may not appreciate it now.... but later they're resources I still use. You can get a grant bed in my state. I'm not sure about yours. They kind of level you out and send you home. It won't fix the eating disorder but they can kinda figure out what's needed. But yeah, she'll definitely be mad... but you can only work from the knowledge you have of the situation and the condition. I'd recommend trying to learn more about her conditions as they find out more.. mom did that and it's really changed our relationship after 16 ish years of turmoil. We're not perfect but her trying to get me and sort of learning to set her own emotional boundaries of what she'll tolerate.. helps. At least keeps a reasonable peace. I've recovered from the eating disorders... but I'll say.. it's an addiction and disorder
So you have to keep in mind the manipulation aspect. And I'm not saying she's doing it of her own free will at all... it's the sickness. But you can't play along with that either because you could love her to literal death if you do. That's just advice from someone on the other side.... you did what you had to do. Approach it with empathy, but don't allow yourself to be manipulated. Learn about it and really how it effects the brain. I suggest the book winter girls. It'll give you a really clear idea of the craziness that anorexia creates. It's like a voice telling you what to do.... that book I think would help you. But also, look into crisis units. Because they can evaluate and her be home quickly bc... you're not gonna beat it alone. And forcibly just feeds it. But at least you can get insight on what to do. Like psychiatrists, meds whatever. Like a game plan
Edit: I see a lot of people saying inpatient. And I might be wrong. She might need that. I don't know really...I had it ten years? My inpatient friends (watch internet use!!!! We All talk. Find each other) they just got more.. manipulative. I guess it depends how bad it is. Bc I mean they sewed quarters in pockets to weigh more. So you're momma, you know your child... but I was institutionalized against my will and. I don't think that week did anything. Bc I was so mad
Therapy did
Oh! The comments made me think. Avoid gum, caffeine, pills I agree, diet drinks, rice cakes.. like if I fight it I bring in cupcakes.. And IDK if this will help.. or worsen. Scratch out the calories. They can be looked up. But it won't be As easy
So you have to keep in mind the manipulation aspect. And I'm not saying she's doing it of her own free will at all... it's the sickness. But you can't play along with that either because you could love her to literal death if you do. That's just advice from someone on the other side.... you did what you had to do. Approach it with empathy, but don't allow yourself to be manipulated. Learn about it and really how it effects the brain. I suggest the book winter girls. It'll give you a really clear idea of the craziness that anorexia creates. It's like a voice telling you what to do.... that book I think would help you. But also, look into crisis units. Because they can evaluate and her be home quickly bc... you're not gonna beat it alone. And forcibly just feeds it. But at least you can get insight on what to do. Like psychiatrists, meds whatever. Like a game plan
Edit: I see a lot of people saying inpatient. And I might be wrong. She might need that. I don't know really...I had it ten years? My inpatient friends (watch internet use!!!! We All talk. Find each other) they just got more.. manipulative. I guess it depends how bad it is. Bc I mean they sewed quarters in pockets to weigh more. So you're momma, you know your child... but I was institutionalized against my will and. I don't think that week did anything. Bc I was so mad
Therapy did
Oh! The comments made me think. Avoid gum, caffeine, pills I agree, diet drinks, rice cakes.. like if I fight it I bring in cupcakes.. And IDK if this will help.. or worsen. Scratch out the calories. They can be looked up. But it won't be As easy