scarfacemcfan
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Apologies ahead of time for grammer and my rambling. For some context I (30m) broke up with my wife around a year ago. We get along great and seem to coparent very well. She has a boyfriend we have not met yet only because he doesnt feel comfortable doing so yet. Id like to meet him and im sure I will soon. Her family knows about the new boyfriend and he is great with our 2 kids from what Ive heard (5 y/o boy) and (8 m/o girl)
Here is where my problem lies I have also moved on and have been dating a woman for 10 months. We didnt expect to date but we clicked almost immediately and its the healthiest relationship weve both ever had. She has also been out of her relationship for about the same as me. And witbout too much detail it was "done" long before it was officially done much like my prior relationship.
That all being said she is stuggling to find a new normal for coparenting. If shes needed space ive given it, ive been extremely supportive and understanding through everything. But i feel conflicted because a few months in her ex said he wants to meet me first before im around their daughter any more. I totally respect that and have been willing to meet. However he doesnt make any effort to meet. Which in turn makes it so I can only see my girlfriend for few hours a couple nights a week. She also still hasnt told her family about the fact were dating. I feel like a dirty secret and have to tip toe around meeting her or sending her gifts that may imply love. I want to be there for her and I understand this all new to her and him. I trust her completely but the fact im kept a secret and the fact i can only see her when she doesnt have her daughter bothers me. My son and her daughter get along great too and I would love to see them hangout more. Idk maybe im an asshole. I know I just need to give it time, which I will but I still feel like shit about.
If youve made it this far thank you for listening. I just needed to vent and hear what other people have to say who might have gone through something simliar.
Here is where my problem lies I have also moved on and have been dating a woman for 10 months. We didnt expect to date but we clicked almost immediately and its the healthiest relationship weve both ever had. She has also been out of her relationship for about the same as me. And witbout too much detail it was "done" long before it was officially done much like my prior relationship.
That all being said she is stuggling to find a new normal for coparenting. If shes needed space ive given it, ive been extremely supportive and understanding through everything. But i feel conflicted because a few months in her ex said he wants to meet me first before im around their daughter any more. I totally respect that and have been willing to meet. However he doesnt make any effort to meet. Which in turn makes it so I can only see my girlfriend for few hours a couple nights a week. She also still hasnt told her family about the fact were dating. I feel like a dirty secret and have to tip toe around meeting her or sending her gifts that may imply love. I want to be there for her and I understand this all new to her and him. I trust her completely but the fact im kept a secret and the fact i can only see her when she doesnt have her daughter bothers me. My son and her daughter get along great too and I would love to see them hangout more. Idk maybe im an asshole. I know I just need to give it time, which I will but I still feel like shit about.
If youve made it this far thank you for listening. I just needed to vent and hear what other people have to say who might have gone through something simliar.