@marybelshe This is not my sole reason but it is a factor. My brother and sister, a set of twins, was born when I was 10 and I was essentially thrust into the secondary mom role as my mom's husband was a POS father. (Story for another time) I had to grow up immediately, girl guides had to stop, any extra energy/time/love was give to the golden twins. (I love them don't get me wrong- but it was hard growing up) and when my mom tried to leave their POS father and work night shifts, guess who picked up the slack. Still to this day not recognition outward for me doing this as it was just what is expected.
I want my daughter to have everything she deserves in life. She is 4.5, gives love freely, gives sass freely knowing we will always love and care for her. We live in a HCOL country and I know the future will be hard for her. I want to see her up for success and be able to be there for her if she needs it. I am "geriatric" and I know I would not have the energy if I had a second child who was differently abled. I would also not be able to financially keep up with soccer, dance, etc if I had 2.
My dad also went and had a whole other family essentially forgetting us (me and my younger brother, older than the twins) and I never ever want to for my daughter, or any child really.
I want my daughter to have everything she deserves in life. She is 4.5, gives love freely, gives sass freely knowing we will always love and care for her. We live in a HCOL country and I know the future will be hard for her. I want to see her up for success and be able to be there for her if she needs it. I am "geriatric" and I know I would not have the energy if I had a second child who was differently abled. I would also not be able to financially keep up with soccer, dance, etc if I had 2.
My dad also went and had a whole other family essentially forgetting us (me and my younger brother, older than the twins) and I never ever want to for my daughter, or any child really.