Annoying comments about my son being small

[pentie2003]

When my oldest was born he was 6lbs 5oz born at 39 weeks and 6 days with an induction that ended up being an emergency c-section because he wasn’t ready to com out and the induction medicine wasn’t agreeing with him.
He turned 2 on the 17th of December, I’ve always gotten from people “how small he is”. Which is pissing me off the older he gets, he gets compared to his cousin who’s 6 months older than him all the time by height. When his cousin was born he was 7lbs and something else ounces almost 8, I don’t remember. But I do remember that he looked like a big man baby when he was a baby(not in a bad way, he was just always big).
I’m just sick of him getting compared to other boys his age or just being told he’s so small. Doesn’t help that his 8 month old brother is about to surpass him with height before he’s 1.
I think my son will be fine, I don’t think he’ll be short forever, also he’s only 2. I’m sure he’ll go through some growth spurt because I’m 5’6 and his dad is 6’0 but even if he is “short” so what?
Any advice to help me ignore the stupid comments or have any good comebacks?

 

[standing4him]

@pentie2003 "Gerald is perfectly Gerald-sized, thankyouverymuch".

 

[ruminator]

@standing4him This is great! My son had the opposite problem: he’s huge for his age and I get all the stupid ‘oh he’ll be a basketball player’ blah blah blah. I am stealing this phrase. Love it!!

 

[petunia8110]

@ruminator You can't win. It's constant. 'Oh he'll he a linebacker.' Unless a doctor says something they're just fine and perfect for them.

 

[pisteuo]

@petunia8110 My son was born 10 lbs. 1 oz. and I get the linebacker comment constantly.

 

[havaianas71]

@pisteuo I was 11 lbs. 7 oz. when I was born and my mum and dad got basketballer, volleyball player all the time. Turns out I'm neither but a healthy now 5'9" woman whose height doesn't have a whole lot to do with my life.

 

[joyceclaudy]

@havaianas71 I'm a woman who was 7lbs and some off ozs and I'm taller than you. (But not by much).

You really can't say much about what a baby will grow up to be from their birth weight

 

[havaianas71]

@joyceclaudy It's very true! My 10 lb sister is 5'7".

 

[pentie2003]

@ruminator I get that with my youngest. Apparently my oldest will be a jockey and my youngest a linebacker.

 

[ameliacheyenne]

@ruminator I always get comments about my son's height, he 2.8 and is close to majority of 4year olds and I always get told how big he is, like I haven't noticed lol

 

[ruminator]

@ameliacheyenne Hahhaha right? Like I can’t see that my 14 month old is almost too big for his 18-month clothes?
‘Oh gosh oh gee, thanks for pointing it out’ lol. People just focus on the physical and that’s what causes kids complexes down the road. I wish they’d just be like, ‘aw, look how good he is at sharing’ and just be done with it.

 

[molinist]

@ameliacheyenne My kid is really small and I always want to be like “oh shit for real? I hadn’t noticed!”

 

[huxbulldog]

@ruminator Oh my god my family of tall kids (siblings and myself) got nonstop basketball player lines. It got old real fast.

 

[joebo]

@huxbulldog Then you have my cousins by marriage- parents are super tall, kids are tall, parents run a basketball camp

 

[huxbulldog]

@joebo lol we are soft artsy non-sports players

 

[mattgospo]

@ruminator My son was opposite too and I actually had a stranger at one point say “wow! That’s a fat baby!” Just out of nowhere. It’s a struggle no matter what. But now he’s actually a string bean and super skinny. You never know! As long as the doctor says he’s healthy then I would tell other people he is perfect how he is!

 

[wildernesswanderer]

@mattgospo So rude! One stranger said “that baby is so fat stuffed like a sausage.” It sticks with me… I don’t want my baby internalizing these judgements once getting more aware of what people are saying.

 

[mattgospo]

@wildernesswanderer That’s ridiculous! Idk why people think it’s necessary or ok to be like that…

 

[ruminator]

@wildernesswanderer Exactly. It’s the idea that these are babies and don’t hear these judgements of their bodies…it makes me angry. One day they do understand and internalize it. It’s infuriating.

 

[protrepo]

@wildernesswanderer The problem I have is that these people think “oh it’s just a baby!! They don’t know what ‘chubby’ means!!” Ok sure but I am the parent and it is my job to advocate for my child. Also the people around me that just had to call my son “chubby” definitely were not the type of people who would be able to break the habit once my son is old enough to understand. There are so many more things to comment about on a baby besides their height/weight.