@guitarofgod So I also had hoped to be done with babies by 35 because of age. Didn’t happen that way…
My first I had at 27.
Second at 31.
Had a 2nd trimester loss at 34. We thought we would have 3 kids and be done.
Got pregnant soon after our loss with identical twins.
I was 35 when they arrived.
We thought we were done. Then got pregnant with a surprise at 39. Delivered at 40.
That child was so delightful we actually decided to try for one more at 42… I got pregnant the first month trying and just had baby #6 last month at 43.
Originally I wanted my kids closer together. I thought once my first was 1 we would start trying for #2. But that was right around the housing collapse of 07-08… my husband was a realtor at the time. So we had some financial difficulties that put having a baby on hold. She was almost 4 when our 2nd was born.
In hindsight I love the age gaps of my kids. 3-4 years apart has been great. Less stressful in my opinion. Though twins are hard… can’t plan for that though.