@carson 27+1 dad checking in. We are on day 41 of the nicu today.
Some tips.
Set a routine. Something like come in for rounds, hang out for 3 hours do her care and go home. You don’t need to stay there forever. You need to recover for your trauma also.
As fast as you can find primary nurses you like, do it. Especially on the night shift. It changes your ability to sleep when you know the nurse caring for your baby.
Don’t sleep in the NICU (unless docs are telling you your little one isn’t doing well). It’s not restful and you may see things you can’t unsee. I saw my little girl get emergency intubation and it scared me.
Give yourself grace to not always be strong. Cry. This is the hardest thing you’ll probably ever have to do. My wife and I cry often about it.
Mourn the parts of your pregnancy you are going to miss being so early. It’s ok to be sad about not having most of your last trimester.
I highly recommend a second set of pump parts for the night time pump and a larger sanitizer (dr browns is like $60 at target). Washing and pumping is a lot all the time. This helps especially the night pumping to not have to wash it immediately.
Take this one day at a time and next thing you know you’ll be heading toward graduation day