What are the most common unsolicited comments you receive when out with multiples?

[nihal]

I’ll start: YoUvE gOt YoUr HaNdS fUlL

 

[bettyraene]

@nihal “I always wanted twins”

Close second: “my so-and-so has twins”

 

[jon200689]

@bettyraene Yes! Why do people feel compelled to tell us about twins they know? I don't understand at all.

 

[praiseyehoshua]

@jon200689 I do, however, like when other parents tell me they have twins or if people are twins themselves. I think there is some solidarity in that.

 

[cg23]

@praiseyehoshua The twin parents actually LIVED the horror-I mean the newborn stage though so they. Get. It.

 

[barnabas1954]

@jon200689 Many people feel the compulsive urge to relate the world to their personal experience. I admit I am also somewhat baffled when some rando comes up to me and tells me their brother's in-laws have twin cousins. Oh wow, they're teenagers now? Why would I care?

 

[wisa35]

@jon200689 I like this when the person is a twin or has twins because then I can ask them for stories and advice. But if it's distant twins it's just annoying.

 

[rescued2]

@nihal “Were they conceived naturally or?…”

 

[igbokwe]

@rescued2 I’m pregnant with twins rn and haven’t gotten that question yet. Would “I think it was doggy style” be an appropriate answer?

 

[rescued2]

@igbokwe Thinking of compiling a list of responses to keep things interesting, ranging from
“oh no, you see two storks were given my address by mistake and I didn’t want to send one back and create a HR nightmare for the poor stork baby delivery company”
To
“No, actually I was doing a naked headstand while my husband stood 5 foot away trying to get a personal best in the distance category. Think naked golf, but with body fluids.”

 

[donw1245]

@igbokwe Or just play dumb like you don't understand the question and when forced to elaborate, they realize how inappropriate their question is.

 

[dan123]

@igbokwe Give it time, it will happen. Even when they don’t ask outright I’ve had plenty of questions about egg freezing and retrieval, IVF, which clinics I recommend and assumptions made about our perceived infertility.

 

[phoenixmod]

@igbokwe I respond with “we were trying for a boy, but we tried a little too hard *wink.” Ask a weird question, get a weird answer.

 

[prettyfit12]

@phoenixmod When ours were babies a stranger asked “how’d you get twins?” My answer. “You have to push it in real hard!”

 

[mwj]

@igbokwe Omg yesssss

 

[sunrice]

@rescued2 This. I can’t get over how many people think it’s appropriate to ask how my twins were conceived.

 

[wisa35]

@rescued2 Usually it's been "do twins run in your family or..." And when I don't want to talk about IVF I say "they just started running x months ago, and boy is it crazy!" (Still toddlers so running is new). I usually get a confused expression which is amusing.

 

[kadydz]

@wisa35 This is hilarious! My twins are 8 weeks so we haven't gone out, but at the hospital every single person asked us this. I'll have to remember this for the future and try it out sometime

 

[coltonrc]

@nihal "Are they twins?" No, they just happen to look the same, be the same size, act the same age, and wear the same clothes

 

[safehands]

@coltonrc To be fair. I have girls one year apart who also fall into all those categories. Older one is small, younger one is big and they look so similarly it’s wild. But it is unusual.