@lauriesinglemom A lot of people in here are downplaying COVID but ignoring that you said in your post you spent a week in hospital and that your twins were premature.
A peer reviewed study this year shows that being vaccinated also in fact reduces transmission by up to 55%:
https://www.nature.com/articles/s41591-022-02138-x
Being vaccinated not only substantially affects transmission & infection rates but also affects how symptomatic you are, how likely you are to be hospitalised and how likely you are to die.
You now have an almost 1 in 2 chance of being readmitted into hospital having been hospitalised before:
https://www.scientificamerican.com/...ase-the-risk-of-severe-disease-or-long-covid/
Long COVID is also very real and the only way to protect yourself, your spouse and your children from potential lifelong disability is not contracting it.
Even if you are purely selfish here (and I’m not suggesting you are or should be), she’s far more likely to be sick enough to need a lot of time off work if she does get it, forcing you to try and find other costly care at the last minute.
How would you feel in future if, knowing she was unvaccinated, and seemingly unconcerned about the impacts she could have on your family, she disregarded her symptoms and contacts and put you or your kids in the hospital again?
Honestly, it seems important to you and with good reason. Losing good care is a shame but losing care from someone who doesn’t truly care for your family, doesn’t listen to your concerns, doesn’t share your values and dodges questions about those issues is not.
ETA: I incorrectly stated COVID transmission was not substantially different between vaccinated and unvaccinated people. This was incorrect (see second para)