@benzohar Daughter is 2 and a bit and has been quite similar to how you explain your son such as severe seperation anxiety from birth and highly sensitive and a poor sleeper etc we have gone through phases where we believe she could be autistic or have sensory processing disorder however paediatrician believes so far that she is just very sensitive! We have meltdowns that are very similar to how you explained also sometimes lasting 30 minutes and screaming until she almost vomits! We also sound like perhaps we have similar parenting styles. As you have said sometimes distraction works but recently not so much and sometimes if you speak too much it makes it worse so I’ve started just sitting on the floor or laying or whatever near her and just softening my eyes and face and body language and putting my arms out every so often and when she is ready she comes for a hug then I sing and rock her and she usually falls asleep as it must take lots of energy out of her! I’ve noticed it’s been in phases though so hopefully you are just in a hard bit now then it will calm down again soon
In terms of sleep and bed we transitioned her into a Montessori style floor bed and this helped a lot (you just have to ensure you have a baby gate on the door and that furniture attached to wall and no safety issues in reach) also found she started sleeping better when we got rid of her night light and is pitch black. She still has phases and wakes up most nights atleast once but a dramatic difference
Everything is a phase! I really hope things get easier soon! I’m really sorry that my comment isn’t more helpful but just know there are other parents out there with similar situation you are not alone
@gmasweetart Yea I'm sure it's all normal. It's just so difficult!
For the sleep, were you cosleeping then transitioned? Or do you still cosleep? We have a sidecar setup that he likes and usually uses, but lately he's been having night time separation anxiety so that's not been helping either.
@benzohar We weren’t co-sleeping however before she moved into the floor bed she was going through phases of ending up in our bed but we were cuddling her to sleep in a chair then transferring her to the cot but now we still cuddle to sleep but it’s so much more comfortable for me because I can just lay down next to her in floor bed in her room!
Everything is a phase though and naturally as they get older the amount of support required at bedtime and over night will slowly decrease til they are one day teenagers and we will be complaining get them to get out of bed before about 2pm on a Saturday haha!
Yea that's definitely on the list, something I'll be talking with the doc about later today. But it also takes so long to get in with a specialist or even a pediatrician where I am it's better to be on the list than need it and wait. Canada has great free health care but you need to wait for it lol
