@charles1014 One of my aspirational goals is to have my kiddo deciding or in control of as much of her life as possible (without causing some negligent scenario obviously). If you sort r/toddlers by top of all time, there are some gems there I plan on incorporating towards autonomy.
One of them is where the dad rolls a 6 sided dice and the kiddo gets that many tokens for the day, which she can then turn in to him for special snacks or screen time (1 episode of a show for example). This gives the kiddo some autonomy over stuff that needs to be limited, and the randomness of the dice keeps it interesting.
Edit: people seem to have a lot to say about the dice thing, so I went to find the OP. Please remember do not brigade! But, here is the complete context for those who are interested:
Lots of parents there talk about using timers for their kids. Especially asking them how many more minutes they want to play before they switch tasks, so they feel autonomous over the end time (while as the parent you can still set the timer for 5min or 10min and they can't really tell lmao).
A recent one referenced the improv comedy rule "yes, and" and applying it to playing with your toddler. Again since toddlers are autonomy-obsessed, they love being 'yes, and-ed,' because their idea gets used and you validate it's value by building on it. (This one is aspirational for me especially as I'm not great at pretend play)
Other than that, for me it's:
- Three healthy meals a day (no fast food)
- Toddler has autonomous access to healthy snacks she can grab herself
- My LO moatly picking out her outfits, dinner items, etc
- Going outside every possible day
- Exercising together every day
- Visiting a semi-structured educational place at least twice a month, like a museum or the zoo
- Limiting screen time to 1hr/day at a routine time (ex between outside time and dinner) with parent involvement
- Read books and do arts/crafts every day
Some of these we are already doing at 1.5yrs, which bodes well, but we'll see how sustainable it is when she is 2+. Some of them have to wait until she is older, but that's okay. Many will be easier when she is older too.
Great question btw