@rme09 Just latch onto any interests your kids have, and enable them to follow them. Share that time with them.
Sit down with your kids and have grown-up conversations with them when they ask mature questions. You can guide your answer to buffer the content or tell it in a way that they will understand better using metaphor, but we never dismiss questions our daughter has about the world.
I do my best to never outright dismiss my daughter because i'm "Busy". That's telling her that I value other things more than her. Instead, I always tell her "As soon as i'm at a good stopping point, I'd love to hear more about it!", and if it's genuinely something I can just set down and walk away from, I always do.
At the end of the way, just respect your kids time, and try your best to be interested in what they're interested in. They'll develop a sense that you're always in their corner, and always there to talk to, and always willing to make time for them.
That translates to more open lines of communication as your kids get older, and I hope, that when she's feeling not great, she comes to me to have a root beer and talk about a problem rather than sending nudes to some idiot teenager seeking validation because she coudln't get it from me or my wife.
Who knows, I'm just making this shit up as I go along, but as a parent with parents that didn't do any of this, I know what NOT to do.
Sit down with your kids and have grown-up conversations with them when they ask mature questions. You can guide your answer to buffer the content or tell it in a way that they will understand better using metaphor, but we never dismiss questions our daughter has about the world.
I do my best to never outright dismiss my daughter because i'm "Busy". That's telling her that I value other things more than her. Instead, I always tell her "As soon as i'm at a good stopping point, I'd love to hear more about it!", and if it's genuinely something I can just set down and walk away from, I always do.
At the end of the way, just respect your kids time, and try your best to be interested in what they're interested in. They'll develop a sense that you're always in their corner, and always there to talk to, and always willing to make time for them.
That translates to more open lines of communication as your kids get older, and I hope, that when she's feeling not great, she comes to me to have a root beer and talk about a problem rather than sending nudes to some idiot teenager seeking validation because she coudln't get it from me or my wife.
Who knows, I'm just making this shit up as I go along, but as a parent with parents that didn't do any of this, I know what NOT to do.