SAHP - what is your child duty split during off-hours?

[freeinchrist1611]

@katrina2017

You summarized the situation way better than me. I will reflect on resentment management. However, I also hesitate to go back to work ( tried full-time/flex/part-time and nothing looks good so far).

 

[beleadnotastray]

@freeinchrist1611 This is not fair in the least bit. So you don’t have any help, is what you’re pretty much saying.

It’s so hard to find a balance between partners, and no one has it perfectly (at least I think!) but there should be discussions around expectations and what’s fair. What you have, is not equitable.

I’ve heard the book Fair Play is a good place to start.

 

[iambatman11]

@freeinchrist1611 Umm sounds like the partner wants to opt out of parenting and household care tasks. This is a big red flag.

 

[katrina2017]

@iambatman11 Said the stay at home mom sitting at home with no kid 8 hours a day...

 

[taznq15]

@freeinchrist1611 Realistically it sounds like there is a lot to pay for with prepared food and cleaners, so I might make sure he gets a break to do a good job at making the dough. In return, why not find outside help once a week to do something for yourself? Maybe an exercise class? Lots of fitness studios offer childcare, so if I were you, I’d be hitting a barre class on the weekends and blowing off some steam