@shaughnessyym yes, i did, and i think that's a really uncharitable reading of that comment. i don't think it's unreasonable to ask "hey are there any tips in this book that were particularly helpful to you" before you go reading an entire book. you're all over this thread mad that you read a book and not everyone is choosing to do that, even going so far as to call it "cheating." i personally find it more rewarding to have empathy for other struggling new parents.