@jsphalford11 I think a lot of the time the most helpful books contain a lot of information and you can’t really provide the specifics that will be the most helpful in a concise way without knowing way more details than a general post will provide.
In the same vein as your complaint, though, not everybody in a parenting sub has the time to go grab the book, find the exact excerpt that
may be helpful, and type it out in its entirety in a post tailor-made just for you. And then do the same to the next poster that asks the same question about a different baby tomorrow. And the day after that. And two hours after that on the same day. As you pointed out, a lot of people have the same issues, but as you also failed to notice: not everybody takes the time to scroll through the sub to see what answers are all ready available to them that people took the time to provide the painstaking level of detail you think everyone should get every time.
If you’re coming for advice in a social media sub, you’re going to get general information and then you need to actually put the work in to make it work for yourself because only you are going to be aware of all the nuances involved in making that advice work. Expecting others to do it for you is pretty entitled.
Also being suspicious that everybody is a bot trying to sell you something is just bizarre. I’ve got a very magical and typically common concept for you to consider that’s probably way closer to home that can give you the precious resources you seek for free from well meaning strangers: a library. Often times they will have multiple copies of a book, or have an inter-library loan system that can get a copy to the branch closest to you for a tiny fee (mine charges a quarter). A lot of them also contain research librarians that can help you find specific excepts from specific books based on specific needs. So if you can strap said high needs low sleep super stressful baby into a car seat for a quick drive, and soothe said baby long enough to literally speak to another human being, you can get all the information you’re looking for from someone very qualified to do it efficiently and quickly, often for another very small fee if it isn’t a totally free service.
And for the record, nobody
has to respond to anything anybody posts on Reddit, let alone provide an entire specialized dissertation in response to every single person with the same problem that has so many ways to solve it, most of which probably won’t work since they’re not in your shoes (and will be a total waste of that other person’s time to provide to you).
. Reddit takes a lot of my time but I love it, and it’s no excuse for my lack of reading. Also, if someone recommended THE book and I was desperate for something to fix a problem with my child, I’m reading it the night of (I’m not referencing the book I actually read till 4am since it’s a trigger for OP). Obviously I’m not gonna read every book ever recommended but at least the one most people suggested.