@gavenv Look up authoritative parenting not gentle parenting and I think your husband will get on board much quicker. They're very similar but gentle parenting has turned more into submissive parenting.
Also do some research on what spanking does to kids. Besides what it can do in the long term think about what you're actually doing. You, a full grown adult who should be able to manage your emotions is going to use physical violence on a tiny defenseless human, your own human. And what will that teach them? Nothing. You are only teaching them to fear you and not feel comfortable and safe with you and in their own home. You're also going to teach them they can't come to you with problems for fear of just being punished physically.
And just because you yourself aren't doing the spanking does not make it better. If you allow your husband to hit your child they will feel betrayed by you and feel as though you do not want to protect them and that's almost worse.
Your husband needs a reality check. Honestly search any parenting sub using the work "spank" and you will find an enormous amount of information on why it's bad and why not to do it.
Besides that I will say my husband was kind of in the same boat as yours and I did not bother to baby step him through it. I flat out said it was not happening no matter what because we would not be abusing our child. There is no such thing as hitting for discipline was all I said and all I would say.. he didn't try to argue it and when our son got here he felt such love for him he just realized how it could never be ok.
We have a few friends who spank, and worse, and we honestly don't ever see them anymore because it disgusts us that they treat their kids that way and we refuse to support that kind of parenting.
Also do some research on what spanking does to kids. Besides what it can do in the long term think about what you're actually doing. You, a full grown adult who should be able to manage your emotions is going to use physical violence on a tiny defenseless human, your own human. And what will that teach them? Nothing. You are only teaching them to fear you and not feel comfortable and safe with you and in their own home. You're also going to teach them they can't come to you with problems for fear of just being punished physically.
And just because you yourself aren't doing the spanking does not make it better. If you allow your husband to hit your child they will feel betrayed by you and feel as though you do not want to protect them and that's almost worse.
Your husband needs a reality check. Honestly search any parenting sub using the work "spank" and you will find an enormous amount of information on why it's bad and why not to do it.
Besides that I will say my husband was kind of in the same boat as yours and I did not bother to baby step him through it. I flat out said it was not happening no matter what because we would not be abusing our child. There is no such thing as hitting for discipline was all I said and all I would say.. he didn't try to argue it and when our son got here he felt such love for him he just realized how it could never be ok.
We have a few friends who spank, and worse, and we honestly don't ever see them anymore because it disgusts us that they treat their kids that way and we refuse to support that kind of parenting.
