@mike_l My first was formula fed and we co slept from 3-4 months. I read somewhere that after 4 months it becomes safer if you don’t breastfeed. We followed safe sleep 7 to a tee without the breastfeeding.
Also, just because you didn’t/can’t breastfeed doesn’t mean shit to your kid. I’m sorry, but all babies really care about is if their needs are being met (clean, warm, FED) they don’t care if it comes from a boob or a can. They just want to be fed.
You’re so much more to your baby then a milk factory. You are enough for your baby, and you are everything she needs. Be kind to yourself, in the scheme of things breastfeeding is such a teeny tiny part of it. Formula fed or breast fed, eventually they all eat McDonald’s chips off the car floor.
Come over to r/cosleeping and ask others if they formula fed and co sleep. There are other people out there.
You’re doing great mama.