My six year old and I did a girl’s day the other day. She got her hair cut, we went for coffee, and then we had manicures. It was kind of a big deal - I don’t get my nails done and it was my first time in over 10 years, and was my girly’s first time ever. I was really excited - it’s something I’ve been looking forward to doing for quite awhile. We were having a great time when we first got to the nail place. My kiddo loved picking her color and she was so cute being a “big girl”. About a minute in, the technician working with my daughter started asking her questions. “How old are you?”, “Do you have any brothers or sisters?”, standard stuff. Then she started to cross the line. “Oh, you don’t? You must be so lonely! Aren’t you lonely? Don’t you want a baby brother or sister? You need to ask your mama and daddy for a baby so you aren’t lonely. Mama, are you going to have another baby so your little girl isn’t so lonely anymore?” My daughter looked sad and uncomfortable, and I firmly said, “No, we are not having any more children. We hit the jackpot the first time around!” Usually that’s enough to shut people up, but not this lady. “Why don’t you want another baby? Do you want your daughter to be lonely?” At this point I was getting pretty upset. I don’t know this woman. She doesn’t know my daughter. This is none of her business. But she just plowed right on. “Come on, Mama, you need to have another baby! Why wouldn’t you want another beautiful baby??”
So now I’m pissed. My daughter was on the verge of tears and I was trying to hold my tongue, but finally snapped, “We are not having any more children” thinking that she’d drop it. Nope. “Why not, though?!” Ok, hit my limit. “Because we physically cannot have more children, ok? Can we drop it now?” She looked super uncomfortable, which made me happy. She doesn’t need to know that we physically can’t have more children because my husband got a vasectomy. Normally I just explain that we only want one child, but this b*tch was making me and my daughter so uncomfortable that I wanted to turn it around on her. She made what was supposed to be a special experience awkward and disappointing.
Anyways, I just needed to vent. I know I could have handled it better, but it really caught me off guard.
So now I’m pissed. My daughter was on the verge of tears and I was trying to hold my tongue, but finally snapped, “We are not having any more children” thinking that she’d drop it. Nope. “Why not, though?!” Ok, hit my limit. “Because we physically cannot have more children, ok? Can we drop it now?” She looked super uncomfortable, which made me happy. She doesn’t need to know that we physically can’t have more children because my husband got a vasectomy. Normally I just explain that we only want one child, but this b*tch was making me and my daughter so uncomfortable that I wanted to turn it around on her. She made what was supposed to be a special experience awkward and disappointing.
Anyways, I just needed to vent. I know I could have handled it better, but it really caught me off guard.
