@lunalovesjesus I started having sex at 16. My boyfriend lived an hour out of town and he was allowed to come stay for the day, but not sleep over lest we have sex.
I fucked him behind my garage, at the baseball dugout, in a field, in a shed, at the park... Basically we had a lot of outdoor/public sex. And if my mom went shopping or something, we'd fuck in my room in the afternoon while she was gone. Mostly we used condoms. Had he been allowed to sleep over, we literally would have slept.
My mother didn't want me to have consensual sex in a safe and comfortable space, so I chose to have risky sex in uncomfortable places.
Your mom knows you're sexually active, so you should talk to your mom. I wish I would have sat with my mom and asked her, Do you feel comfortable with me having sex at the baseball diamond?? Is that safer/better than me having sex at home in my room, especially if my family is home and can protect me if I need them??
To this day I don't believe my mother knows about all the weird places I've had sex. I think it would make her sick to her stomach if she knew.
When it comes to teen sex, at the end of the day it's not ever about safety, it's about purity. Taking away the safest most comfortable place to explore a relationship physically doesn't make any sense to me. Talk to your mom. I wish I did when I was your age.