rickyrajesh
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@elzappozah Do you work full time? (I assume you do, given you're confused by the library activities being at 10am on a weekday - they're for SAHPs/grandparents/shift-workers to take younger kids to after school dropoff, and people usually take their kids there to make up for lack of daycare socialising.)
The trick is to find families who are available when you are available.
After Maternity leave, you often find that the parents who go back to work want to socialise at the weekend (because they've been looking forward to getting to play with their kids all week) but the Stay-At-Home-Parents want to hand the kid off to their other half and be alone for once at the weekend (they had playdates duringthe week). Unless they have a pre-existing strong bond, they're probably not going to be meeting up much!
It often helps to match up with similar aged kids, too - if you're arranging a playdate for one four year old, look out for four year olds who don't have siblings. If you also have a baby, look out for four year olds out with babies or whose mums are pregnant. As kids get older, it really helps to match up all the kids so that no-one is left out (and bugging the adults for attention).
Trying being out-and-about at the times you will typically be available to socialise - go to the library or the local (ideally walking distance) play park then, and see who else is around. Those are the people available when you are.
The trick is to find families who are available when you are available.
After Maternity leave, you often find that the parents who go back to work want to socialise at the weekend (because they've been looking forward to getting to play with their kids all week) but the Stay-At-Home-Parents want to hand the kid off to their other half and be alone for once at the weekend (they had playdates duringthe week). Unless they have a pre-existing strong bond, they're probably not going to be meeting up much!
It often helps to match up with similar aged kids, too - if you're arranging a playdate for one four year old, look out for four year olds who don't have siblings. If you also have a baby, look out for four year olds out with babies or whose mums are pregnant. As kids get older, it really helps to match up all the kids so that no-one is left out (and bugging the adults for attention).
Trying being out-and-about at the times you will typically be available to socialise - go to the library or the local (ideally walking distance) play park then, and see who else is around. Those are the people available when you are.