Hello fellow madres,
I currently have a desk job with a few work related travels here and there, but am mostly sedentary and work from home most of the time.
Now, I might get a job offer that involves being sent to various locations anywhere from a month to several months (6-12 months), but will not be allowed to bring my family (husband and 2 y.o.).
My husband and I talked about it, and he’s okay to hold down the fort for up to 3 months but isn’t sure about longer deployments. He works full time in high stress job but doesn’t travel much, and is an involved dad to our toddler who goes to daycare full time.
Will my kiddo remember me when I come back? Will they be developing anxiety? Will they grow resentful or have insecure attachment issues in the future? My doctor recently told me how well my kiddo is doing and she shows signs of secure attachment and I was absolutely over the moon to hear this, and I don’t want to fuck it up.
But the nature of my work - should I choose to go down this path - does involve a lot of unpredictable traveling, frequent relocations, and so divorce rates are ridiculously high. I don’t want that obviously, but I do want to do my job.
Any unsolicited advice welcome, mamas. I love my kiddo and want the best for them, AND I’m also very work driven. Would love to hear your opinions. Thank you for reading this far.
ETA: Thank you so much for your advice and opinions, and those who have shared their painful stories of growing up with their parents away on the road, thank you for sharing your side of the story.
I’m indeed career driven but also fear driven, and I want to make sure my family will have the means to survive another shitstorm that the world economy hurls at us (which is too frequent, especially to us millenials). At the end of the day, I want us to have good food and maybe share the blessing with others when we can, by helping. Thank you again for your time and care.
I currently have a desk job with a few work related travels here and there, but am mostly sedentary and work from home most of the time.
Now, I might get a job offer that involves being sent to various locations anywhere from a month to several months (6-12 months), but will not be allowed to bring my family (husband and 2 y.o.).
My husband and I talked about it, and he’s okay to hold down the fort for up to 3 months but isn’t sure about longer deployments. He works full time in high stress job but doesn’t travel much, and is an involved dad to our toddler who goes to daycare full time.
Will my kiddo remember me when I come back? Will they be developing anxiety? Will they grow resentful or have insecure attachment issues in the future? My doctor recently told me how well my kiddo is doing and she shows signs of secure attachment and I was absolutely over the moon to hear this, and I don’t want to fuck it up.
But the nature of my work - should I choose to go down this path - does involve a lot of unpredictable traveling, frequent relocations, and so divorce rates are ridiculously high. I don’t want that obviously, but I do want to do my job.
Any unsolicited advice welcome, mamas. I love my kiddo and want the best for them, AND I’m also very work driven. Would love to hear your opinions. Thank you for reading this far.
ETA: Thank you so much for your advice and opinions, and those who have shared their painful stories of growing up with their parents away on the road, thank you for sharing your side of the story.
I’m indeed career driven but also fear driven, and I want to make sure my family will have the means to survive another shitstorm that the world economy hurls at us (which is too frequent, especially to us millenials). At the end of the day, I want us to have good food and maybe share the blessing with others when we can, by helping. Thank you again for your time and care.