@renegadelegion I'm going to approach this from a very weird position. I had a client who was a cheater, his wife thought I was one of his affair partners, and occasionally likes to send random threats for the past... Oh..4 or 5 years.
Here is the thing though, the man was a coaching client so I got a little more insight into his personal thoughts than a normal coworker and if this was Vegas I would've bet he was screwing someone at the office.
However, not my business.
Until his wife thought I was one of his chicks because of how much we talked or emailed. In retrospect he was either a pretty prolific cheater or she is delusional. Either way the entire situation is...sad.
Like that's all I can think about. This woman cost me a large professional contract and I just feel sadness. You can feel the paranoia. Hey husband connecting or talking to anyone has her on red alert. According to the last rant filled email she sent to a list serve worth of women (not sure how many of us are falsely accused) they have been in couples therapy and she just can't get "us" out of her head and just wants us to reach out to her if he ever contacts us and see that he has a family that we were hurting.
How exhausting must all that be? That paranoia? To hold on to the suspicions... To let it rot you. Do you have any friends? Or is every coworker and friendly neighbor a potential "threat"?
I stopped trying to talk sense into her after two messages. She said she saw everything, which meant she saw nothing incriminating, but she still couldn't believe the truth. She just assumed she didn't have the right evidence yet... Kept ranting about how she wasn't a fool. She KNEW. Nothing could convince her that what she "knew" wasn't the truth.
I was an external contractor so the president paid for the remainder of my current contract but cancelled the future ones. I was horribly demoralized.
But essentially she chose to stay (again in assuming he actually cheated at some point and this wasn't all conjuncture in her head since she wasn't committed yet) and it seemed so exhausting being her and in her own destruction she was becoming this raging force striking out at everything around her. She lost reason. She lost sense. She just carries this hurt.
It's so so so sad.
Don't be so desperate to stay a family that you can't heal from the wound and be a healthy person.
Wishing you the best of luck.
Here is the thing though, the man was a coaching client so I got a little more insight into his personal thoughts than a normal coworker and if this was Vegas I would've bet he was screwing someone at the office.
However, not my business.
Until his wife thought I was one of his chicks because of how much we talked or emailed. In retrospect he was either a pretty prolific cheater or she is delusional. Either way the entire situation is...sad.
Like that's all I can think about. This woman cost me a large professional contract and I just feel sadness. You can feel the paranoia. Hey husband connecting or talking to anyone has her on red alert. According to the last rant filled email she sent to a list serve worth of women (not sure how many of us are falsely accused) they have been in couples therapy and she just can't get "us" out of her head and just wants us to reach out to her if he ever contacts us and see that he has a family that we were hurting.
How exhausting must all that be? That paranoia? To hold on to the suspicions... To let it rot you. Do you have any friends? Or is every coworker and friendly neighbor a potential "threat"?
I stopped trying to talk sense into her after two messages. She said she saw everything, which meant she saw nothing incriminating, but she still couldn't believe the truth. She just assumed she didn't have the right evidence yet... Kept ranting about how she wasn't a fool. She KNEW. Nothing could convince her that what she "knew" wasn't the truth.
I was an external contractor so the president paid for the remainder of my current contract but cancelled the future ones. I was horribly demoralized.
But essentially she chose to stay (again in assuming he actually cheated at some point and this wasn't all conjuncture in her head since she wasn't committed yet) and it seemed so exhausting being her and in her own destruction she was becoming this raging force striking out at everything around her. She lost reason. She lost sense. She just carries this hurt.
It's so so so sad.
Don't be so desperate to stay a family that you can't heal from the wound and be a healthy person.
Wishing you the best of luck.