thegreatesthate
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@pensonfam My brother. All of the love and good vibrations to you and your wife.
coolbreeze
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@pensonfam I have absolutely no way to comprehend what you are going through right now. If I could shoulder some of your pain I would .
@pensonfam Honestly, I don't have words, the English language falls at times like these. But I too live in the East of England, and as I watch the sun set tonight, I'll hold a thought for you both & Sonny.
Give yourself time, take up any counselling you can - wishing you all the best I can
Give yourself time, take up any counselling you can - wishing you all the best I can
writergirl
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@pensonfam We lost our first boy, Oliver, in a similar situation. It’s devastating and I think about him daily. r/babyloss and r/ttcafterloss were great online support groups that helped us. Also, sign up for family grief counseling. It really helped us process this life changing event. You’re not alone man.
@pensonfam So sorry for your loss 
@pensonfam Prayers for you my friend. Condolences
frank23johnson
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@pensonfam I'm so sorry to hear this - sending my best to you and your family
japan_4the_witness
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@pensonfam Thinking of you and your family. Best wishes to all.
@pensonfam Oh my goodness, I am so sorry. I cannot imagine how this must feel. I will be praying for you and your wife as often as I think of you.
@pensonfam So sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine what you’re going through and let us know if you need anything.
pollyjetix
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@pensonfam Damn man, So sorry.
We had a miscarrage and an ectopic after our first daughter. With the ectopic, Wife was in pain. her original doctors office brushed it off. Finally got into a different office. took her back and did the scan. it was a new trainee doing the scan. Took her forever to find the baby. Finally found it. measured the heartbeat. beautiful 145BPM. Everything looked good. Then the doc came in and reviewed it. and broke the news... Because the first office gave us the run-around/did nothing. The tube actually ruptured and had to be removed. Lucky my wife didn't bleed out internally.
It was especially hard on my wife. blaming herself for it. She ended up getting a tattoo with all the birth month flowers on it.
On the trying again part, it'll take time. After our issues, we had 3 more kids, happy and healthy.
We had a miscarrage and an ectopic after our first daughter. With the ectopic, Wife was in pain. her original doctors office brushed it off. Finally got into a different office. took her back and did the scan. it was a new trainee doing the scan. Took her forever to find the baby. Finally found it. measured the heartbeat. beautiful 145BPM. Everything looked good. Then the doc came in and reviewed it. and broke the news... Because the first office gave us the run-around/did nothing. The tube actually ruptured and had to be removed. Lucky my wife didn't bleed out internally.
It was especially hard on my wife. blaming herself for it. She ended up getting a tattoo with all the birth month flowers on it.
On the trying again part, it'll take time. After our issues, we had 3 more kids, happy and healthy.
@pensonfam My hearts breaking for you I have no words I'm so sorry
harris11651
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@pensonfam You are loved OP
@pensonfam My heart breaks for you. I am so sorry.
thenonbelieverofanyfaith
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@pensonfam Couldn't read this and not respond. So, so sorry for you both.
@pensonfam Beyond sorry for you and your wife’s loss. Take care of her and each other, better days will come.
@pensonfam i’m so sorry to hear this my man my condolences to you and your family.
@pensonfam omg I'm sorry hugs and love
@pensonfam I am so sorry, my friend. My wife and I just went through this last summer. The day before we were to leave on our family vacation with our other two kids, we lost the baby at 16 weeks. It is a crazy rollercoaster, and I can't imagine it having been even longer into the pregnancy. I feel so heavily for you and your wife; it is a heartbreaking experience. We learned that we had to turn to each other and our faith when we lost Jonah. It made us stronger as a couple.
We planted a tree and had a granite plaque made for him. My wife is also writing a children's book for parents to speak to each other and their kids about pregnancy and infant loss. We didn't know how to speak to our daughter, who was with us in the room, when we found out that Jonah had passed away. It was so heartbreaking for her and us.
Truly, if you want to talk, PM me, and I will happily provide you with my number.
Best of luck, brother, it gets better.
We planted a tree and had a granite plaque made for him. My wife is also writing a children's book for parents to speak to each other and their kids about pregnancy and infant loss. We didn't know how to speak to our daughter, who was with us in the room, when we found out that Jonah had passed away. It was so heartbreaking for her and us.
Truly, if you want to talk, PM me, and I will happily provide you with my number.
Best of luck, brother, it gets better.