I’m a FTM to a 9 month old. I really don’t know shit about being a mom, I’m learning as I go. I read a lot about parenting online and in books although I know that never beats experience.
My friend stopped over today with her 3 kids, we hung out for awhile and she asked if I wanted to go get coffee with her. My sons car seat was in my husbands truck, which he took to go fishing, so I declined saying I didn’t have a car seat. She said I could just hold him while we went, it would be fine, she used to do it with her kids all the time because they hated being in the car seat. Her now 2 year old doesn’t use a car seat at all because “he’s too big and doesn’t like it anyways”
I declined again, saying car seat safety is important to me and I’m not doing that. She laughed at me and said I need to stop believing everything I read on the internet, she did it and her kids are fine and I’m putting my son in a “safety bubble” whatever that means. She picks apart my parenting all the time, from me not giving my son bottles (he never took them and I’m with him 100% of the time so it was just easier to always nurse) to not letting him cry it out (just a personal preference) and usually I can just brush it off but this really upset me today. I’m usually very open to advice and try to seek it out whenever I can, but I don’t want any kind of advice or being told what I should do with my child from someone who doesn’t care about their own child’s safety.
Idk, I know this is all over the place, I’m exhausted and frustrated. Hope this rant/ramble makes some sort of sense lol
My friend stopped over today with her 3 kids, we hung out for awhile and she asked if I wanted to go get coffee with her. My sons car seat was in my husbands truck, which he took to go fishing, so I declined saying I didn’t have a car seat. She said I could just hold him while we went, it would be fine, she used to do it with her kids all the time because they hated being in the car seat. Her now 2 year old doesn’t use a car seat at all because “he’s too big and doesn’t like it anyways”
I declined again, saying car seat safety is important to me and I’m not doing that. She laughed at me and said I need to stop believing everything I read on the internet, she did it and her kids are fine and I’m putting my son in a “safety bubble” whatever that means. She picks apart my parenting all the time, from me not giving my son bottles (he never took them and I’m with him 100% of the time so it was just easier to always nurse) to not letting him cry it out (just a personal preference) and usually I can just brush it off but this really upset me today. I’m usually very open to advice and try to seek it out whenever I can, but I don’t want any kind of advice or being told what I should do with my child from someone who doesn’t care about their own child’s safety.
Idk, I know this is all over the place, I’m exhausted and frustrated. Hope this rant/ramble makes some sort of sense lol