@charity78777 This is literally my MIL. “All my babies were doing Xyz by this age” “well this is how I used to do it for my babies” “I never felt like I needed a break” “I could always tell when babies were formula fed vs breast fed bc of their behavior”
@charity78777 I am experiencing this right now. My husbands cousin had a baby who is 8 months older than our 2 monther and we always hear about what she’s done and that we should do the same. I mentioned recently to my MIL that I want to do BLW and she said “oh no. X does baby purée pouches and you should too.”
@charity78777 I’m also riding the frustration train. My sister had a baby a month before me, so there is never short supply of comparison between my style of parenting (apparently overly anxious and helicopter-y) and my sister’s (so easy, going out every night, passing baby around).
@charity78777 As hard as it is I’ve just come to the realization maybe someone’s baby will sit at six months and not babble. Maybe mine will babble at six months and not sit yet. I read somewhere someone said, try not to compare and consult your doctor if you feel like somethings really not right medically or something like that, which made perfect sense to me. They will get there when they’re supposed to. Also last thing, I know it’s hard ESP when it’s your first baby..(normal) some babies don’t crawl and go straight to walking lol. Can happen! that was my friend tonight with her baby, and her mil who’s been our family friend forever said that happened with her first too and she was all worried about milestones but after that all her other four children she just went with the flow haha #firstchildprobs
@charity78777 This is so annoying!!! And this comes from so many people - parents who want to show how their baby is a genius since birth already, random people, online communities, relatives … when i was a baby i only started walking at over one year old and later became an athlete. So all this talk means absolutely nothing. Just respond with smth really stupid to shut them up. Your baby will do things their way and nobody elses.
@charity78777 The boat thing is effing mind-boggling. I recently refused to take my almost-3-year-old on a boat because I know her, she is feral, and she can’t swim. I do not consider this unreasonable. A 3-week-old? I mean, good for them, I guess. My ass had PPA.
@molinist We live on the water so it’s a whole culture here. Many, many toddlers regularly go on boats with their parents. But I would never take a toddler on a boat if I myself weren’t an experienced boater who already knows how to handle toddlers on boats. They also have to be able to understand and respect the safety rules and every kid is different in what age that is. But a newborn baby? I cannot imagine passing her across three feet of open water into a boat at low tide. Or trying to be safe riding over waves without the use either arm for balance. No thanks. I didn’t even take my baby to the pool this summer because she constantly tries to swallow bath water and I just knew she would do it in the pool too.