@pringles24 I've had two c-sections and both were positive experiences. The first, I knew I wasn't going to be allowed to go into labor because she was measuring very small. Still I wasn't expecting to go into surgery when I did - we went in for monitoring, they kept me overnight, and in the morning they decided to get me on the schedule for that day. The second time I was hoping for a VBAC but we had a section scheduled for my due date. After 48 hours of prodromal labor I begged them to get me in a day early (and they did).
In both cases I didn't look - it was a nice opaque curtain and I think that's better for me.
Delayed cord clamping us industry standard in most places but had I requested an extra minute or two I'm sure it would have been honored.
Same with music, I wanted the surgeon to pick whatever worked for them but I'm sure they would have honored a request. They were generally happy to talk with me and fill me in on what was happening.
As for immediate skin to skin - I guess I'm not sure how this would have worked. They still have to deal with the placenta and stitch you up, they also need to get you out of the operating room because it'll be someone else's turn. Then you wind up waiting in a limbo area for like an hour to make sure you come off the anesthesia a bit. I don't think either hospital I went to would have allowed the baby to be in that space.
In my case the first baby had to go to the nicu, the second went to our room with her dad and I joined as soon as I could.
I'd say the experiences were relaxed, and largely unsurprising and unrushed, and I think I was less exhausted than a lot of moms who have days of labor but like - it's still a pretty gnarly surgery. You're still in a shiny sterile operating room, laid out on a stainless steel table, wearing a hair net. Have a talk w your OB about what is realistic to expect and what is not, they should make you feel better.