@walid373 I’ll say this, we have 5 remaining embryos and are OAD. It’s hard to say goodbye to them or that idea and so that’s probably why they’re still frozen and our child is 2 and we’re both on the cusp of 40 and wouldn’t want to go beyond that in having another anyway. It’s hard it is and I’m pretty sure if I decided to have another then my spouse would be on board to go for it, but I’m not. Your husband doesn’t want to and so I think the first consideration is that you’re OAD with him. And there shouldn’t be a world where you try to convince him. Don’t do that. That breeds resentment and the far worse outcome of someone regretting having another child.
That said, I’m OAD for a few reasons, I’m over 40 now, I do want to have time for myself, I struggled with PPD, and still do, the newborn through toddler phase is ROUGH for me, I worry if the second has any sort of serious health or developmental issues, I don’t want to travel with young kids at all much less two and I do like to travel, financially it would be rough, and in my opinion you can’t have multiple kids to give them siblings more kids are for you and I don’t want to raise more babies.
That said, I’m OAD for a few reasons, I’m over 40 now, I do want to have time for myself, I struggled with PPD, and still do, the newborn through toddler phase is ROUGH for me, I worry if the second has any sort of serious health or developmental issues, I don’t want to travel with young kids at all much less two and I do like to travel, financially it would be rough, and in my opinion you can’t have multiple kids to give them siblings more kids are for you and I don’t want to raise more babies.