I spoke with my husband. I got the same response I always have. He was angry at me over the state of our disorganized and messy house. He said he doesn't care how I feel, that I am lucky he puts the garbage out on Thursdays. He is not doing any more than he already does. He is tired when he comes home from a work day of wrenching and needs the evening to have his space and time to relax and recover.
No I am not divorcing him. I chose to marry him. This life is my choice and my responsibility to live to the fullest.
The reason I do dishes all the time and laundry is we have a small dish washer and clothes washer and dryer and own a small amount of clothes which means we have to do laundry and dishes more frequently.
Because the trailer is so small if I don't nap when our L.O does during the day the sounds of me walking and cleaning keep him awake.
Because my pancreas doesn't work I have less energy than most people and tire quicker and earlier than most which just means I will need more rest and get 0 me time.
I will try not napping when L.O naps. Shorten their nap to an hour and half and go to bed at night when they do in the evening instead of taking any me time so I have more energy to be more productive during the day.
Having a child means hard work and 0 me time. It's been that way since he was born and will be that way until he is in in school and I go back to work. It might be that way until he moves out. That's just how it is when you are a mother. That's how it was for my mom and his mom, I expect it to be that way for me too.