revstockton
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I had a really miserable pregnancy. I had HG for about 30 weeks, Covid and influenza B at the same time over Christmas and new years, borderline pre-e, cholestasis, etc. By my third trimester, I was going to the hospital twice a week for monitoring and seeing the OB every 5 days. Throughout all of this, I was having a somewhat rough time. Most of my friends just kept telling me horror stories about their scary deliveries and all about how their husbands were absolutely useless during pregnancy, delivery and postpartum life.
I’m just so grateful that my own experience was nothing like the horror stories I was absorbing every day. Having a newborn IS exhausting. I can’t imagine what it would be like without a supportive partner.
I woke up this morning with my newborn at 7:30. She let me get 5.5 hours of sleep broken into two stretches. When we woke up, my husband was at work already. My Stanley cup on the nightstand was freshly full of ice water (which requires going in our backyard to the deep freeze, so I never want to). There was a homemade breakfast sandwich wrapped in foil, in case I wanted to warm it in the air fryer. I ate it cold like a Gremlin. There was also a large fresh iced coffee. All of the baby dishes were clean and drying. I exclusively pump, so having the dishes done is a major stress reliever.
Waking up to these things being done completely changes the tone of my whole day with the baby. I’m able to eat, focus on doing what she needs, and pump much faster than if I was rushing around trying to do everything myself. I’m so grateful that even though I’m the primary parent and he’s the primary provider, he makes serious efforts to make my life more comfortable while I’m busy being a mom. And then when he’s home from work, we share the parenting load. I love watching the two of them interact.
I just remember being pregnant and miserable and everyone saying “just wait till you have a baby, it’s going to be so much worse”. I’m here to say, things got so much better. I’ve never been happier. Also, most of my friends who said their husbands were useless have multiple children….? If it sucks so much, I’m not sure why they keep repeating the experience.
Edit: one of these days I’ll post my birth story before the details get too fuzzy. It was a weeklong shitshow.
I’m just so grateful that my own experience was nothing like the horror stories I was absorbing every day. Having a newborn IS exhausting. I can’t imagine what it would be like without a supportive partner.
I woke up this morning with my newborn at 7:30. She let me get 5.5 hours of sleep broken into two stretches. When we woke up, my husband was at work already. My Stanley cup on the nightstand was freshly full of ice water (which requires going in our backyard to the deep freeze, so I never want to). There was a homemade breakfast sandwich wrapped in foil, in case I wanted to warm it in the air fryer. I ate it cold like a Gremlin. There was also a large fresh iced coffee. All of the baby dishes were clean and drying. I exclusively pump, so having the dishes done is a major stress reliever.
Waking up to these things being done completely changes the tone of my whole day with the baby. I’m able to eat, focus on doing what she needs, and pump much faster than if I was rushing around trying to do everything myself. I’m so grateful that even though I’m the primary parent and he’s the primary provider, he makes serious efforts to make my life more comfortable while I’m busy being a mom. And then when he’s home from work, we share the parenting load. I love watching the two of them interact.
I just remember being pregnant and miserable and everyone saying “just wait till you have a baby, it’s going to be so much worse”. I’m here to say, things got so much better. I’ve never been happier. Also, most of my friends who said their husbands were useless have multiple children….? If it sucks so much, I’m not sure why they keep repeating the experience.
Edit: one of these days I’ll post my birth story before the details get too fuzzy. It was a weeklong shitshow.
. I had to shut down a couple of family members and would start skipping tiktoks that were obviously horror stories. Just better to do everything to stay in a positive mindset!
I love hearing about happy or just content babies!