@steffserves She was not. She's struggled mightily with her mental health -- always, but especially since having kids. She was diagnosed with ADHD recently, and this was a vice she really started leaning into to calm her mind...an ASMR, of sorts, I guess...but then it devolved into a really bad habit/addiction. It went from her needing an afternoon break alone to zone into her phone for a bit, to her zoning into her phone morning, noon, and night. It's in her face on the couch. It's in her face when she gets up from the couch to make dinner. It's in her face while she's making dinner. It's in her face while she's at the table with us eating dinner. It's in her face when she returns to the couch after dinner. It's in her face while she's putting our 4 year old to bed. It's in her face all evening long after the kids are in bed. Wash, rinse, repeat.
Oh, yeah... and if she's doing something that'd preclude her from actively looking at her phone, such as driving, it's podcasts or weird ASMR videos on YouTube.
Like I said before, it drives me crazy to have to compete with her phone for her time, but I really just feel bad for the kids. I've tried talking to her about it before, and I've even discussed it with my therapist to try to help inform a meaningful discussion with her about it, but it goes nowhere 100% of the time. She gets mean and defensive about it anytime I bring it up -- like a bad dog when you're trying to take its bone away.