sunnyfields
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@pentie2003 The doctors told my husband's mom that he would be lucky to reach 5'10. He's 6'3, being small doesn't mean they won't be a giant when they grow up.
Annoying comments about my son being small
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@pentie2003 Same here. My boy is 2 and like 32”. He was born at 18.7”. Comments drive me nuts.
@pentie2003 My LO was born 6pounds something 39 weeks, from birth she had reflux that nobody would listen to me about for 8 weeks. She’s 9months old now and nobody will let up on the whole oh wow she’s really tiny or she’s so small. We’ve come a long way to get her on a percentile line I’m really just sick of hearing how small she is lol
@pentie2003 My daughter is very much a percentile mismatch (15-20th height, 80+ weight dropped to 60 at 18months).
To the people who are astonished how stable is is at the playground it's a 1-2 punch: "well, she was walking well at 9 months... and also she's 20 months old"
To the people who are surprised that she's kind of short: "well, she was never going to be very big... (I'm 5'3", husband is a very slender 5'9")"
To my MIL who seems to think short is a bad word: "no, she actually is pretty short. She's like 4" shorter than her best (tall for his age) friend"
To the people who are astonished how stable is is at the playground it's a 1-2 punch: "well, she was walking well at 9 months... and also she's 20 months old"
To the people who are surprised that she's kind of short: "well, she was never going to be very big... (I'm 5'3", husband is a very slender 5'9")"
To my MIL who seems to think short is a bad word: "no, she actually is pretty short. She's like 4" shorter than her best (tall for his age) friend"
@pentie2003 "We don't discuss physical attributes in this family. My kids know it is rude and hurtful."
jaeschke19
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@pentie2003 Being brutally honest might snap people out of it, if you're OK with causing mild offence. "Yeah, I guess when [cousin] has 6 months on him he is gonna be smaller."
Edit: rewrote example sentence bc I misread the post
Edit: rewrote example sentence bc I misread the post
trinichristiannudist
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@jaeschke19 But OP's son wasn't premature. He was born one day before his due date, which is considered full term.
jaeschke19
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@trinichristiannudist You're right, I misread the birth week. I'll edit my comment, thanks for pointing that out!
pentie2003
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@jaeschke19 My son was born full term, actually a day before his due date. The ultrasound techs actually were telling me he was going to be bigger than he really was.
jaeschke19
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@pentie2003 Yeah sorry I misread the post. Either way, they still shouldn't be measuring him up against a child 6 months his senior. At that age, every month is so important. When you notice he's started putting on weight, soon after he'll have a growth spurt.
byhisgrace2014
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@pentie2003 Folk are just making conversation don't be so precious. If he's wee he's wee.
pentie2003
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@byhisgrace2014 Not just strangers but family too. But thanks for helpful advice
byhisgrace2014
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@pentie2003 It's not a big deal tho unless you make it one.
pentie2003
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@byhisgrace2014 I’ve never said anything to anybody about it except my husband because I’m sick of hearing it, and so is he. Nobody is making a big deal just very annoyed
byhisgrace2014
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@pentie2003 If you're very annoyed then I'm suggesting you shouldn't be. I don't feel it's worth being bothered by, it's not meant to be insulting.
racheldiane
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@pentie2003 I always feel bad about one time I told a friend that picking up her then six month old was so surprisingly easy because he was so light. She was visibly upset even though in my mind I was just comparing him to my giant toddler not to other six month olds.
@pentie2003 It is annoying. My brother was always very short until he was a teenager, but we just kind of owned it in a "guess how old my brother is!".
dixieriderxx
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@pentie2003 I think that anyone who is either at the bottom or top of the growth curve can expect this.
My daughter, for example is quite tall. She is 3 and 42” tall. She also has hypotonia so can’t walk long distances, has to be carried or put in stroller somewhat frequently. I regularly get comments on how she’s “too big to be carried” or “too big for the stroller.” I have just given up and ignore people.
Make sure, with your doctor, that he’s tracking appropriately on his growth curve. As long as doctor isn’t concerned…nothing to worry about.
My daughter, for example is quite tall. She is 3 and 42” tall. She also has hypotonia so can’t walk long distances, has to be carried or put in stroller somewhat frequently. I regularly get comments on how she’s “too big to be carried” or “too big for the stroller.” I have just given up and ignore people.
Make sure, with your doctor, that he’s tracking appropriately on his growth curve. As long as doctor isn’t concerned…nothing to worry about.
osagiekelvin
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@pentie2003 I personally don’t mind the comments like that, I know no one means it as a means to be offensive. I make the same comments myself. It’s when they get older that I would be offended cause they can understand it and it might upset them.
fliemosmoni
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@pentie2003 Ugh I could have written this. My son is 2 and in the 1% for his height. He’s a little peanut but at daycare they always mention how small he is compared to others his age like I don’t already know. We had him checked for growth issues because he was in the 3% for his height prior and dropped, but even before that it was annoying. He has such a big, funny personality and he’s so young to be commenting height constantly. Drs found nothing wrong and I think he’s perfect but people will always find something to comment. I wish they wouldn’t.