Background info: So I have my toddler full time for 90+ percent of a given month (mom not in the picture). A weekend or 3-5 days out of the month she stays with her grandparents (my parents) who are about 2 hours away. I have a group of extended family that we were connected while growing up. I haven't had a good relationship with them for many years, but we do support each other during hard times. I am single dad.
Basically I hear absolutely nothing of communication from the rest of the family to me ..total radio silence. Part of that is on me because In the past I have not wanted to be involved in some drama so I have intentionally stayed away and kept distance. Now as a result the whole family only communicates with my mom in regards to my daughter. all updates, pictures, video calls. And my mom only has her for 3-5 days a month. I thought I didn't give a shit about this situation, but I'm realizing its getting old and its both hurtful and makes me angry. The hardship of parenting is on me, but I am getting 0 of the social support. Meanwhile my mom is being "trophy" parent and taking the "glory" and I know she's presenting it practically like she's the one raising her. See now I feel like I am sounding petty. But it is genuinely disheartening that none of them asks me about my daughter, how shes doing, since I'm the one who actually knows. Or how I'm doing and how things are going as a single parent to a toddler. She's had some extensive health issues as well where I lived with her in the hospital last year that she's still getting better from. Not gonna lie I also feel partly its due to being single dad and not single mom.. if I was single mom alot of the past issues w my family would be swept under the rug on their end and they would be far more doting / connected etc. /Vent
Anyway I'm just being petty right?
Basically I hear absolutely nothing of communication from the rest of the family to me ..total radio silence. Part of that is on me because In the past I have not wanted to be involved in some drama so I have intentionally stayed away and kept distance. Now as a result the whole family only communicates with my mom in regards to my daughter. all updates, pictures, video calls. And my mom only has her for 3-5 days a month. I thought I didn't give a shit about this situation, but I'm realizing its getting old and its both hurtful and makes me angry. The hardship of parenting is on me, but I am getting 0 of the social support. Meanwhile my mom is being "trophy" parent and taking the "glory" and I know she's presenting it practically like she's the one raising her. See now I feel like I am sounding petty. But it is genuinely disheartening that none of them asks me about my daughter, how shes doing, since I'm the one who actually knows. Or how I'm doing and how things are going as a single parent to a toddler. She's had some extensive health issues as well where I lived with her in the hospital last year that she's still getting better from. Not gonna lie I also feel partly its due to being single dad and not single mom.. if I was single mom alot of the past issues w my family would be swept under the rug on their end and they would be far more doting / connected etc. /Vent
Anyway I'm just being petty right?
Definitely can't wait til she progresses to talking in full sentences, being potty trained and all that good stuff.. so we can do all the fun stuff together like you and your daughter. but I also know then all those magical toddler moments will be gone forever too