@chris_mil I’m really really sorry for your loss. I’m a single mom and had an unexpected pregnancy when my daughter was 13 months old. I could not keep the baby by any means, since I had my daughter very premature due to eclampsia and I still take medication for my bp. I had the abortion with the pill done at 9 weeks.
I did it with her alone since I could not tell anyone. It was very traumatic mentally but phisically it was “easier” than I expected.
The pain was bad, but like a really strong menstruation. The worst pain lasted for a couple of hours. Then I could do normal things and I went to work the next day.
I did bleed a LOT. Like postpartum bleeding.
I started the process right before she went to sleep and I spent hours lying in the sofa after, with a pp pad and towels. Then I showered and next day I just used pp pads.
Again, I’m really sorry and I hope you can find the best way to go through this.
Lots of love to your family
Again, I’m really sorry and I hope you can
Edit to say that I did not recognize the gestational sac. I just noticed a lot of big pieces of tissue coming out during the first 3/4 hours, when I was bleeding the most and in the worst pain. But at least for me it was not something you could see clearly.