sharkdive1
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@jess75 I think the biggest evidence against bed sharing creating dependent children is this - it's only relatively recently in human history that we have had separate sleeping spaces. In multiple cultures, it's still common for families to bed or room share for years. You don't see adult children bed sharing with their parents - all children will gradually, slowly become less dependent on their parents. As for self-soothing - from all the reading I've done on it, that's a developmental thing that comes with age. I've read some sources say children can learn from as young as 4 months, but I've also seen others say that it's really only when they're much older that they learn to self sooth. What I do notice a lot, from the perspective of someone living outside of the US, is that there's a big push for babies to become independent at a young age. It's something that works for a lot of families, but I've also notice it causes a lot of anxiety in others, worries that bed sharing or contact naps will somehow damage their children. We're a carry species. Our babies are designed to want to be close to us, for safety and security, especially when they're at their most vulnerable in sleep. Heck, I don't sleep well when I'm alone in the house, I can understand why my baby doesn't sleep well without someone in the room with them!
I've been bed sharing fully since my (now 14 month old) son was about 4 months. During the day, he's a pretty independent, confident little guy. At night, it's a different story - he likes to be as close as possible to me (in fact, some nights he sleeps on top of me). It works for us, though. As he gets older, I know this will change, he won't need me to be with him, and he won't want to sleep next to me, so I'm soaking it up now.
I've been bed sharing fully since my (now 14 month old) son was about 4 months. During the day, he's a pretty independent, confident little guy. At night, it's a different story - he likes to be as close as possible to me (in fact, some nights he sleeps on top of me). It works for us, though. As he gets older, I know this will change, he won't need me to be with him, and he won't want to sleep next to me, so I'm soaking it up now.