False starts and cosleeping!!

[alicekijala]

@snowbunni I was about to write a post here, to ask for advice with exactly the same situation as you - except my baby is 9 months old.
But seeing the comments here, not so much we can do.. only accept it and wait it out
we were even considering hiring “sleeping coach” or even sleep training (could only let her cry for 5 minutes.. I can’t handle that..)

It is good to know that we are not alone in this, and it is not something what we f*ckd up, it is just how she is at the moment..
(Of course all my friend’s babies are sleeping very good, no similar stories I hear there………that’s why my negative thoughts)

 

[snowbunni]

@alicekijala Aw I feel for you! It sucks! If it makes you feel better the last week he isn’t getting any long stretches at all and basically wakes every sleep cycle at 1.25 hours on the dot aaaallll night so f*ck lol…I considered the same as you but I refuse to sleep train…it is what it is until it ain’t (which I’m hoping happens soon than later)!

Some parents are just get blessed with good sleepers. I’m realizing trying to “fix” him just makes me more insane. I’m trying to just accept and expect false starts and many wakings and be pleasantly surprised if we get some good stretches rather than morbidly disappointed we didn’t…

 

[taejon]

@snowbunni My almost-17 month old still false starts most nights She’s giving me more nights lately where she’ll sleep 1-2hrs before waking up, which is nice.

What’s helped my sanity the most has been to put her to bed later (9-10) and just go to bed after she wakes up. She stays asleep once I’m next to her.

 

[snowbunni]

@taejon Oh man! I hope it doesn’t last that long. But ya I hear you. Later bedtime makes sense!

 

[snoopylover]

@snowbunni I don’t know if that’s the case for you, but what helps us is if I don’t have a phone in bed when trying to get him to sleep and after he’s calm and not really eating anymore (maybe 10-15 min in) I gently unlatch him and and get up normally (not sneaking away but rather just giving him a sense of it’s ok to keep sleeping alone). Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn’t, but acceptance of the situation is more important to me than making myself crazy over the “failures”. I try to push the boundaries by giving him constant chances of sleeping on his own while still giving a lot of closeness and attachment when I feel like he needs it.