@alwaystanning thing is that there IS some truth in what he is saying. but it is all about the application. like as your child learns to walk, they are GOING to fall. unless you are literally following behind them to catch them 24/7.
as with everything, there is a middle ground. my son is past the learning to walk stage but he is still a clumsy toddler. sometimes he fails while trying something new and hurts himself. its a matter of managing
how bad it will be if he does fail. people put that bar in different places.
i wont let him try to climb a ladder alone. penalty for failure is too high. but i might let him try to climb the 5ft 'rock wall' at the park alone. he might fall, it will hurt, but worse case scenario is a few scratches.
i dunno. i do understand this post is about frustrating things people say to us, so i understand your venting. but i also think we miiiight be getting a little soft these days. lol.... my SIL wants to put a helmet on her 1yo like 24/7 'just because'.