mariachristi
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Long, so: Tl;dr Baby boy is fine, just being a little troll and hiding behind his placenta. Had an awful, horrendous L&D experience complete with humiliation, panic attacks, and a furious SO that resulted in personally being reassured by the head nursing director of the hospital.
So yesterday afternoon, I realized little bug hadn't moved in almost two days. I knew that my doctor said this was a problem at 28 weeks or later and I'd definitely need to go in at that point for decreased movement, but since it was a little earlier than that I wasn't sure what to do. Gave my doctor's office a call, and the nurse told me to come on in to L&D and get monitored since, even though I'm pre-third trimester, I had been getting fairly consistent movement for almost two weeks at that point and none of the tricks to get him moving had worked for me at that point. Better safe than sorry basically.
I reconfirmed no less than three times that, yes I should in fact go to the ER and up to L&D, not just to my doctor's office because I was embarrassed and not really sure it was necessary, and my social anxiety was telling me people would think I was stupid. The nurse reassures me that, yes, thats the plan and I'm not stupid so off SO and I go to the hospital. Go to the ER, explain what the doctor's office said, they check me in no problem and an orderly takes me to the triage room for L&D to be monitored. Everyone is chill at that point. At some point they bring another woman into the room for basically the same thing and that nurse apologizes for having the two of us in the same room, but it's really busy that day. No big deal I tell him. About 20 minutes later an orderly comes in and says she's here to take us to the clinic. I'm confused and ask her to explain but she isn't really sure either, just that she was told to take us to the clinic. As I'm trying to ask her why we are being moved, another nurse comes rushing in the room, gets in my face, and basically yells at me and humiliates me, in front of another patient She tells me that essentially I am wasting their time being there for monitoring and if I wasn't stupid I would have just gone to the outpatient OB clinic to do the NST since it was before four o'clock. I get told that they have three women in labor and a set of high risk twins that were just delivered and those women actually need their attention and they can't waste time on me for something as silly as fetal monitoring and then kicks me out the door and tells me to go to the clinic.
By the time that we got over to the clinic I am sobbing and my SO is furious. I go to check in and the clinic nurses immediately pull me into the office to figure out what's wrong. Between having a panic attack and sobbing I manage to blubber out what was said to me and why I'm there. The two nurses give each other a sideways look and ask me what she looked like. I describe the nurse and one of them tells the other "You-know-who", so I gather that this isn't the first incident. They take my BP and it is somewhere in the range of 145/95 and they freak out.
Long story short, the nurse in the clinic takes me back to hook up the monitors, even brings my SO with me even though their policy is not too, all the while reassuring me that I absolutely did the right thing coming in and of course that's what they are there for and apologizing. While she's trying to hook up the monitors, the hospital nursing director comes in with a complaint report. Apparently the clinic nurse asked her to come down and fill one out with me. She goes over the incident and spends about 20 minutes reassuring me that this was unacceptable and I was completely right coming in and that it will be taken care of and SO and I can both see the barely controlled anger on her face. She leaves to go "take care of things" and the nurse is having trouble getting a good read on baby boy because he is playing hide and seek with the monitors, so she gets me in for an ultrasound real quick. Once again, they let SO come with me even though its against policy. Baby boy is apparently cozy in there, but since he's gotten bigger he's moved and is now directly behind my anterior placenta, which is why I am suddenly not feeling him. We could see his heart pumping and he was practice breathing which was cool. He was moving and waving his hands, but is kind of lazy.
When the US was done, the nurse gives me some juice and a cool cloth to help me relax a little, then checks my BP again before letting me leave and its pretty close to normal at that point, which is good. The nurse director comes back to once again reassure us that things have been taken care of and it won't happen again. We finally get to head out after a very long day.
So that's that. Baby boy is healthy at least and I'm glad about that and that the other nurses were understanding, but it was completely humiliating and I'm honestly not sure if I'd be comfortable going in again for something like this after the way I was treated. Unfortunately, this is the only area hospital that takes my insurance, so I don't really have a choice in the matter.
Thanks for reading if you made it this far.
So yesterday afternoon, I realized little bug hadn't moved in almost two days. I knew that my doctor said this was a problem at 28 weeks or later and I'd definitely need to go in at that point for decreased movement, but since it was a little earlier than that I wasn't sure what to do. Gave my doctor's office a call, and the nurse told me to come on in to L&D and get monitored since, even though I'm pre-third trimester, I had been getting fairly consistent movement for almost two weeks at that point and none of the tricks to get him moving had worked for me at that point. Better safe than sorry basically.
I reconfirmed no less than three times that, yes I should in fact go to the ER and up to L&D, not just to my doctor's office because I was embarrassed and not really sure it was necessary, and my social anxiety was telling me people would think I was stupid. The nurse reassures me that, yes, thats the plan and I'm not stupid so off SO and I go to the hospital. Go to the ER, explain what the doctor's office said, they check me in no problem and an orderly takes me to the triage room for L&D to be monitored. Everyone is chill at that point. At some point they bring another woman into the room for basically the same thing and that nurse apologizes for having the two of us in the same room, but it's really busy that day. No big deal I tell him. About 20 minutes later an orderly comes in and says she's here to take us to the clinic. I'm confused and ask her to explain but she isn't really sure either, just that she was told to take us to the clinic. As I'm trying to ask her why we are being moved, another nurse comes rushing in the room, gets in my face, and basically yells at me and humiliates me, in front of another patient She tells me that essentially I am wasting their time being there for monitoring and if I wasn't stupid I would have just gone to the outpatient OB clinic to do the NST since it was before four o'clock. I get told that they have three women in labor and a set of high risk twins that were just delivered and those women actually need their attention and they can't waste time on me for something as silly as fetal monitoring and then kicks me out the door and tells me to go to the clinic.
By the time that we got over to the clinic I am sobbing and my SO is furious. I go to check in and the clinic nurses immediately pull me into the office to figure out what's wrong. Between having a panic attack and sobbing I manage to blubber out what was said to me and why I'm there. The two nurses give each other a sideways look and ask me what she looked like. I describe the nurse and one of them tells the other "You-know-who", so I gather that this isn't the first incident. They take my BP and it is somewhere in the range of 145/95 and they freak out.
Long story short, the nurse in the clinic takes me back to hook up the monitors, even brings my SO with me even though their policy is not too, all the while reassuring me that I absolutely did the right thing coming in and of course that's what they are there for and apologizing. While she's trying to hook up the monitors, the hospital nursing director comes in with a complaint report. Apparently the clinic nurse asked her to come down and fill one out with me. She goes over the incident and spends about 20 minutes reassuring me that this was unacceptable and I was completely right coming in and that it will be taken care of and SO and I can both see the barely controlled anger on her face. She leaves to go "take care of things" and the nurse is having trouble getting a good read on baby boy because he is playing hide and seek with the monitors, so she gets me in for an ultrasound real quick. Once again, they let SO come with me even though its against policy. Baby boy is apparently cozy in there, but since he's gotten bigger he's moved and is now directly behind my anterior placenta, which is why I am suddenly not feeling him. We could see his heart pumping and he was practice breathing which was cool. He was moving and waving his hands, but is kind of lazy.
When the US was done, the nurse gives me some juice and a cool cloth to help me relax a little, then checks my BP again before letting me leave and its pretty close to normal at that point, which is good. The nurse director comes back to once again reassure us that things have been taken care of and it won't happen again. We finally get to head out after a very long day.
So that's that. Baby boy is healthy at least and I'm glad about that and that the other nurses were understanding, but it was completely humiliating and I'm honestly not sure if I'd be comfortable going in again for something like this after the way I was treated. Unfortunately, this is the only area hospital that takes my insurance, so I don't really have a choice in the matter.
Thanks for reading if you made it this far.
