Taking a Poll

[ericaleefrieden]

@g19shooter Postpartum life is isolating, even moreso when you’re an introvert. Don’t have friends or a “community” other than family (who mostly trigger me these days). :/

 

[relic]

@ericaleefrieden Introvert here too! It sucks.

 

[notyouraveragejoe]

@ericaleefrieden Introvert and not living in my home country , imagine the sadness

 

[mac1]

@notyouraveragejoe Having a baby in a country that doesn't feel like home is just next-level isolating. Solidarity

 

[counselorwriterdad]

@g19shooter At 12 weeks I'm still putting him down already asleep and hate myself each time. He put himself to sleep maybe twice, and I'm too scared to try again.

 

[ericaleefrieden]

@counselorwriterdad Idk how people can do it with them awake

 

[johnny1217]

@ericaleefrieden Me either. I don’t know if I have an exceptionally alert infant or what but it doesn’t work for us. And I’m far too exhausted at this point to keep trying.

 

[brian1992]

@counselorwriterdad I’ve given up putting him down in general because he wakes up in 5 mins even if he’s dead asleep he just sleeps in his carrier during the day and miraculously will go down at night

 

[counselorwriterdad]

@brian1992 Literally same.

 

[notyouraveragejoe]

@counselorwriterdad Same here, it take bloody murder cries and it breaks my heart i cannot do it, she has to be dead asleep to put her and she wakes up even in maximum 20 mins

 

[trynabgood]

@g19shooter When my kid was 2 weeks old I accidentally clipped a small chunk of finger off while trying to clip her nails bc she jerked into the trimmers… still haven’t gotten over that scream.

Accidentally bopped her head on the banister of the hallway a couple times. She never reacted to it but it happened and I felt so awful I now hold her differently to avoid it.

One time sent my kid to daycare on an ~80 degree day. Dressed her appropriately in a t shirt and shorts but she had a blowout and the only spare clothes in her cubby were from winter… bulky fleece long sleeved onesies that would surely suffocate her. I felt awful about it and my fiance had to bring her extra clothes.

One time my fiance pretty much just fed her water when she was like 2.5 months old because he put the formula in the bottle and was so exhausted he forgot to shake it, so it was all just sitting in a big clump at the bottom. Thankfully she was fine.

 

[harrison19]

@trynabgood I did this but it was her toe. Didn't cut a single nail for weeks after that. She also has a birthmark on the tip of one of her fingers and goes under the nail. It's the type with blood vessels in it so scared stiff cutting that one.

 

[damienfleming]

@g19shooter 4ms and we don’t do tummy time often. Maybe every other day. He absolutely hates it. My generation didn’t do it, and I walk and hold my head up just fine.

 

[notyouraveragejoe]

@damienfleming I second that, it stresses me the amount if activities i should do for the baby while i can barely have sane functioning mind frim the sleep deprivation..
I don't remember my mum or Grandma have ever mentioned tummy time or anything...... And i think my physical abilities are just fine.. they have to develop at some time i mean..

 

[jalal]

@g19shooter Dad here. Still contact nap for every day time nap. The reasons: 1) I’m lucky to work for a company that gave me 20 weeks of paternity leave. 2) I enjoy contact naps and he sleeps in his Snoo at night 3) I’m convinced the idea of putting a baby into a bassinet as “drowsy but awake” and having them actually stay asleep is a myth created by someone who just hates me.

 

[jamanda1980]

@g19shooter Literally everything

 

[monyraj]

@g19shooter I didn’t realize I had to send in baby’s birth certificate to HR for health insurance. I found out through her ped right before her 2 month vax appointment. I had to beg my work HR to let me add her to my insurance since it was almost 60 days past birth and you’re supposed to send it in the first 30 days -__-

 

[destinyking]

@g19shooter My son got a bad diaper rash at like 1 week old bc he doesn’t cry if he’s pooped. He would and will sit in it and not care unless I notice. I felt absolutely horrible and cried so much. Now I put butt paste on all the time just in case.

My older son rolled off our raised bed at like 3/4 months old onto hardwood floor because I was mopping and thought it would be okay for him to chill on the bed while I mopped.

I’m sure I have so many more but these are the first ones that popped into my head lol

 

[brian1992]

@g19shooter My son is 9 weeks and we haven’t been on a walk in so long, every other day we walk around the backyard for 5 mins, but it’s hard to incorporate walks into our day when there’s always chores to do or food to make I’ve had to become a shower at night person when it was always the first thing I did in the morning

 

[definedbytruth]

@g19shooter I feel fine all day, elated even, but the moment my partner has the baby for a few hours while I sleep I get hit with intense anxiety. I can't sleep, all I can think about is all the horrible things that can happen to my baby. I try breathing techniques and that works sometimes but it's really hard to keep the invasive thoughts at bay. :/
It makes me feel like a hover mom, like unless he's with me he isn't safe.