PLEASE help.
9.5 month old, never been a phenomenal sleeper, but we co-slept and contact napped so that made up the difference. Now that he's older/more mobile/hitting milestones like crawling/standing, we're needing to transition to the crib, which lives in our bedroom (no other options). We have loud white noise and keep it very dark, and recently hung a curtain between his crib and our bed.
I am WELL aware that our habits are not the best, but I'm willing to do anything to fix them. As of now he is SO overtired and I don't know what to do.
Here's our routine at the moment:
Wakeup is usually between 7 and 8am. First nap is between 10 and 11, I nap with him, and he gets 1-1.5 hours. Second nap is around 2 or 3 and he naps by himself, and only gets 30-40 minutes with RARE 60 minute exceptions. Bedtime is between 7:30-8pm.
We tried CIO with him several weeks ago and within a week he was falling asleep with no fuss at bedtime. He would sleep for an hour or two and then wake, and I would either nurse him back to sleep or just bring him to bed with me.
He still does okay when I first put him to bed, but since we started trying to leave him in his crib all night (except for a feed or two), things have gone to s***. If he wakes up less than 3 hours after his last feed we let him cry it out, which can last anywhere from 5 minutes to over an hour (much more common) and nobody is sleeping during that time. He has had ONE 5-hour stretch since he was a newborn, most of the time he sleeps anywhere from 45 minutes to 3 hours at a time and then we either feed him and he maybe goes back to sleep or we leave him and he throws a fit. Sometimes he sits up and can't lay himself back down, sometimes he stands up... it's never a good time.
All of this was to say we're in such a terrible cycle of overtired=poor sleep=overtired=poor sleep, and on and on.... he's just wrecked. I feel terrible and I need help.
9.5 month old, never been a phenomenal sleeper, but we co-slept and contact napped so that made up the difference. Now that he's older/more mobile/hitting milestones like crawling/standing, we're needing to transition to the crib, which lives in our bedroom (no other options). We have loud white noise and keep it very dark, and recently hung a curtain between his crib and our bed.
I am WELL aware that our habits are not the best, but I'm willing to do anything to fix them. As of now he is SO overtired and I don't know what to do.
Here's our routine at the moment:
Wakeup is usually between 7 and 8am. First nap is between 10 and 11, I nap with him, and he gets 1-1.5 hours. Second nap is around 2 or 3 and he naps by himself, and only gets 30-40 minutes with RARE 60 minute exceptions. Bedtime is between 7:30-8pm.
We tried CIO with him several weeks ago and within a week he was falling asleep with no fuss at bedtime. He would sleep for an hour or two and then wake, and I would either nurse him back to sleep or just bring him to bed with me.
He still does okay when I first put him to bed, but since we started trying to leave him in his crib all night (except for a feed or two), things have gone to s***. If he wakes up less than 3 hours after his last feed we let him cry it out, which can last anywhere from 5 minutes to over an hour (much more common) and nobody is sleeping during that time. He has had ONE 5-hour stretch since he was a newborn, most of the time he sleeps anywhere from 45 minutes to 3 hours at a time and then we either feed him and he maybe goes back to sleep or we leave him and he throws a fit. Sometimes he sits up and can't lay himself back down, sometimes he stands up... it's never a good time.
All of this was to say we're in such a terrible cycle of overtired=poor sleep=overtired=poor sleep, and on and on.... he's just wrecked. I feel terrible and I need help.