@katrina2017 I've got mountains of tips. I'll get back to you with them at nap time
Edit: here it is naptime and I'm tired lol ok here goes
I run a
tight ship. Everything has a home. Every activity has a
general schedule. Bad behavior gets nipped in the bud immediately (no 100 do overs) by warning->time out->room, in a three strikes you're out style. Consistency, consistency, consistency, consistency. I expect everyone to be polite. If I'm feeling too frustrated the activity stops. Everything to preschoolers boils down to traffic light sense (go, slow, stop).
Sounds like a prison eh? Well I expect myself to also be polite and also follow the rules and the result is that there's almost
no yelling in my house and it's kind of amazing. Maybe you grew up in one of those unicorn houses but I sure didn't. My family actually gets along (mostly) and it's really cool.
Oh I spend a lot of time with my kids. Enjoy them. Take sincere interest in their likes and personalities even as quirky toddlers. Appreciate them. Do this and the rest (like if they are getting enough vegetables) has a way of working itself out.
Babies-I kept my babies fat and happy. They always had a full belly and were basically attached to me. It's nature. Don't fight it, you usually lose. If you keep a consistent schedule with the older ones the baby slips in somehow. I mean there are disruptions, but not like when baby 1 cried (oh no all hands on deck! vs oh the baby's definitely breathing. Lol). Oh and we are a super fit and active family-those 8 month arm fat rolls didn't stick around. Can't believe it but I miss them :/ my babies were
fat.
I've watched a lot of animals raise young and had some hands in it...and honestly animal behavior + Supernanny is where I draw most of my influences from. Last but not least, I know many disagree but I credit a lot to this-I don't drink at all, ever.