@sixskinners Im going through this now. I’ve had 2 miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy in the past 3 years and I’m now currently 26 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby boy.
The first trimester was extremely hard. I didn’t let myself get excited. I didn’t buy anything. I didn’t tell anyone until like 14 weeks. It was filled with anxiety the entire time. Once I hit 12 weeks, it calmed down a little.
The way I controlled mine was saying daily affirmations like:
- I am pregnant with a healthy baby unless told otherwise.
- no amount of worrying can change the future.
- different pregnancy, different outcome.
- hope doesn’t make bad things happen. I can not jinx my pregnancy.
- being fearful of loss and expressing those fears will not cause loss.
I also prayed over my belly every day and still do.
I’ve been feeling the baby kick since about 18 weeks and that has also helped with my anxiety (even though some days I’m stressing because the baby isn’t as active haha) but I still look at my toilet paper every single time I wipe.
Just lean on your support system and take time out of your day to just breathe and compose yourself when needed.