Post on r/women surprised me

[poormansprophet]

@backfrmsliding33 You aren't the only person to enjoy pregnancy, and that's not masochism...

 

[andreachooi]

@backfrmsliding33 Oh boy do PPL know they can choose to opt out of motherhood while being happy for those who choose to be mothers. Idk why ppl make things sooo miserableeee!!!

 

[fhl2]

@backfrmsliding33 The “child-free for life” community can be that way on social media — what are they calling themselves these days? “Dinks?” “Dirks?”

They preach all day and night about how terrible it is to be judged by people for choosing not to have kids, then make obnoxious, insecure-sounding reels like “10 reasons to never have kids.” COOL! A bit of the pot calling the kettle black, eh?

I just think that we all should mind our own business. Idgaf who is or who isn’t doing what with their life and I also think it’s very un-classy to brag about your life choices to folks who don’t or may not agree. Stop circle jerking, people!

 

[briannaisabella]

@fhl2 DINKS is just dual income no kids. You can be DINKS while not being in the child free for life camp because you have a partner but no children yet.

 

[fhl2]

@briannaisabella Ah ok! Sorry I’m not on Tik Tok so I’m probably coming across like I live under a rock

 

[lynsdeyblack12]

@fhl2 It’s really awkward. They make being child free their entire personality

 

[shadowgun1104]

@fhl2 DINKS doesn't imply any sort of feeling one way or another about kids. My husband and I were DINKS until we got pregnant (technically, we still are until I give birth). It's definitely not an internet-way to refer to childfree folks or anything.

 

[fhl2]

@shadowgun1104 I’ve only heard it come up recently. My bad!

 

[alanohio]

@backfrmsliding33 I was terrified to be pregnant, and in all honesty I absolutely HATE being pregnant with a passion. My body doesn't take pregnancy very well, and this time around I've developed an arrhythmia. That said, I want children so I'm on my 7th pregnancy with what will hopefully become my 3rd take home baby. I am very excited for my husband's vasectomy date though, it can't come soon enough

 

[emari]

@alanohio Wishing you all the best for a smooth sailing rest of your pregnancy! Xxx

 

[peterd1]

@backfrmsliding33 I think fearing the unknown can be scary. When you haven’t personally experienced pregnancy or labor, it can seem a terrifying prospect. Adding to that when you’re intentionally only consuming information (TikTok videos) that backs up your assumption-no wonder your fear only multiplies. Having a positive experience is a complete acceptable thing to add to the conversation. But, if that’s clearly not what they want to hear, they will not.

 

[bethq]

@backfrmsliding33 I’m not afraid of pregnancy but I’m terrified of childbirth. However, it doesn’t bother me one bit how another woman views it, whether they are terrified, love it, or are ambivalent towards it. I’m not someone who believes that everyone needs to subscribe to my idea of living life or viewing things and I’m not sure why other people seem to operate that way. There’s always these factions where everyone is so judgmental of someone who chooses or feels something different from them.

Being terrified of pregnancy, childbirth, and childrearing is completely valid. Being excited about it is also valid. They also aren’t mutually exclusive.

 

[panasonic]

@backfrmsliding33 What do you mean when you say you didn’t feel the same respect for the right to choose?

 

[backfrmsliding33]

@panasonic I explained it in another comment [sup]^[/sup]

 

[sux2bu2day]

@backfrmsliding33 I was terrified of getting pregnant until I met my husband. I think it was more the fear of having a kid with someone who would be a shitty dad (shout out to all my exes). Once I found out, I was so excited, and nervous, but excited! There are parts of it I obviously didn't enjoy, like puking and fatigue and heartburn, but other than that, I loved it. The day she came out, I told my husband I'd absolutely do it again when we're ready.

 

[wbeevers]

@backfrmsliding33 I read the comments from the person responding to you and I wouldn’t take them seriously at all lol. That person was legitimately unhinged.

 

[backfrmsliding33]

@wbeevers now I’m curious

 

[wbeevers]

@backfrmsliding33 Oh I meant I read their comments responding to you lol I didn’t go to their profile or anything, they were just unhinged when responding to you

 

[backfrmsliding33]

@wbeevers Oh ok yes I was really confused at the sentiments lol

 

[myheart2yours]

@backfrmsliding33 People are easily brainwashed