blessings777
New member
Hi pre-daddit!
I just found this sub from the /r/daddit sidebar (was about to post when I thought "I should read the rules" - crazy right?) and I think I have some questions. Or possibly I just need to ramble. Comment on anything you feel like. I think I just want to talk. Is there a pre-dad IRC or something anyone knows of? Sorry - getting off topic already.
First, I'm assuming in this sub - it's cool to talk about our
pregnancy - rather than her pregnancy. You always hear about women correcting men on this - but I do want it to be a partnership.
Anyways - my wife and I just got our first (and 2nd-5th) positive pregnancy test last week. The fancy (expensive) test says we're just 2-3 weeks since conception (so 4-5 weeks pregnant?) which sort of makes sense. I'm looking forward to the doctor clarifying the date - because if you based it off of the first day of her last period - she'd be 9 weeks along and I'm having a tough time accepting the coincidence of her missing a period right before we conceived. But hey - it could happen.
I'm hoping I don't sound like a first world problem to those who had to work hard, but we got pregnant immediately after we started trying (or possibly just before we started). Wife was thrilled! Originally she'd (somewhat reluctantly) agreed to wait 5 years after marriage (we just got married this past July) per my wishes - but then I did a pretty major 180 and we started trying.
To be honest, the sudden success threw me off! I wasn't really expecting it go move along so fast, but here we are! It feels pretty surreal - how do you make it feel real? Without getting ahead of ourselves that is. We're somewhere between 4-9 weeks, which is way too early to announce according to most, but most of my family knows.
Because my wife was so late (and we'd had a million negative pregnancy tests since the first missed period) it wasn't that odd for her to just casually take a pregnancy test while I wasn't home. Last week, I was out for dinner with my family (she wasn't feeling well so didn't want to come along - we were just going to A&W anyways). About a half hour into dinner, Wife calls and I answer it - I'm assuming she's just wondering when I'm going to be home or something, but she starts the call off with "So... I just took a pregnancy test". Automatically I know, for this to be call-me worthy, it's positive. So I (dumbfoundly) just asked "Really?" multiple times, growing louder and louder.
I'm apparently easy to read, because my family all figured it out immediately (my sister got very high pitched and shrieky - she's very excited for us to have kids). By the time I got home (I left right away) my sister had blown up my wife's phone with congratulations. Do we need to curb their expectations since they know so early?
And most importantly, I think: what the hell do I do now? Conception was (apparently) the easy part - What do I do now?!. I'm assuming, with the risks associated with the first trimester, it's too early to start investing in baby stuff. And besides that we JUST sold our house 4 days before we found out (perfect timing: we still have to pick a new house, but the new house was one of our "we should have this before we have kids" type goals) so even if I wanted to just start moving furniture around, there's no point, because we only own this house until May 14th. At that point, hopefully we'll be moved into something new and we can start planning the nursery there.
I'm rambling. I think I'm done rambling for now. Thanks for reading to the end.
I just found this sub from the /r/daddit sidebar (was about to post when I thought "I should read the rules" - crazy right?) and I think I have some questions. Or possibly I just need to ramble. Comment on anything you feel like. I think I just want to talk. Is there a pre-dad IRC or something anyone knows of? Sorry - getting off topic already.
First, I'm assuming in this sub - it's cool to talk about our
pregnancy - rather than her pregnancy. You always hear about women correcting men on this - but I do want it to be a partnership.
Anyways - my wife and I just got our first (and 2nd-5th) positive pregnancy test last week. The fancy (expensive) test says we're just 2-3 weeks since conception (so 4-5 weeks pregnant?) which sort of makes sense. I'm looking forward to the doctor clarifying the date - because if you based it off of the first day of her last period - she'd be 9 weeks along and I'm having a tough time accepting the coincidence of her missing a period right before we conceived. But hey - it could happen.
I'm hoping I don't sound like a first world problem to those who had to work hard, but we got pregnant immediately after we started trying (or possibly just before we started). Wife was thrilled! Originally she'd (somewhat reluctantly) agreed to wait 5 years after marriage (we just got married this past July) per my wishes - but then I did a pretty major 180 and we started trying.
To be honest, the sudden success threw me off! I wasn't really expecting it go move along so fast, but here we are! It feels pretty surreal - how do you make it feel real? Without getting ahead of ourselves that is. We're somewhere between 4-9 weeks, which is way too early to announce according to most, but most of my family knows.
Because my wife was so late (and we'd had a million negative pregnancy tests since the first missed period) it wasn't that odd for her to just casually take a pregnancy test while I wasn't home. Last week, I was out for dinner with my family (she wasn't feeling well so didn't want to come along - we were just going to A&W anyways). About a half hour into dinner, Wife calls and I answer it - I'm assuming she's just wondering when I'm going to be home or something, but she starts the call off with "So... I just took a pregnancy test". Automatically I know, for this to be call-me worthy, it's positive. So I (dumbfoundly) just asked "Really?" multiple times, growing louder and louder.
I'm apparently easy to read, because my family all figured it out immediately (my sister got very high pitched and shrieky - she's very excited for us to have kids). By the time I got home (I left right away) my sister had blown up my wife's phone with congratulations. Do we need to curb their expectations since they know so early?
And most importantly, I think: what the hell do I do now? Conception was (apparently) the easy part - What do I do now?!. I'm assuming, with the risks associated with the first trimester, it's too early to start investing in baby stuff. And besides that we JUST sold our house 4 days before we found out (perfect timing: we still have to pick a new house, but the new house was one of our "we should have this before we have kids" type goals) so even if I wanted to just start moving furniture around, there's no point, because we only own this house until May 14th. At that point, hopefully we'll be moved into something new and we can start planning the nursery there.
I'm rambling. I think I'm done rambling for now. Thanks for reading to the end.
